#29 The Missing Self: Why So Many Women Struggle to Live Life Their Way

This episode builds on last week’s conversation about the Let Them theory and the many responses it generated. One message stood out:“The Let Them theory has been everywhere lately & it has made me uncomfortable … but what you write has hit home like a light bulb for me. It has made me realise I’m not just being antagonistic and negative about the Let Them stuff… I’m yet to be convinced that I am selfish enough to turn away and live my life my way.”In this episode, I explore why that reflection resonates with so many women, particularly in midlife. I unpack how a sense of self is formed relationally, why listening to yourself is often mislabelled as selfishness, and what actually needs to happen before “living life your way” becomes possible.