29: Tying Effort to Self Worth

This episode of the Soul Shift Sessions Podcast, titled "Tying Effort to Self Worth," features coaches Sapphire Starr and Kyle McCloud discussing the concept of self-worth not being tied to effort or external achievements.Key discussion points include:Introduction to Soul Shift Sessions: The hosts introduce themselves and the podcast's goal of deep, transformative conversations.Coach Kyle's Role: Kyle describes himself as the "coach's coach," emphasizing his enjoyment in helping others shine and connecting people. Sapphire further elaborates on his role as a "great facilitator."The Nest Quote: Kyle shares the quote, "The nest is safe, but that's not what the wings are for," highlighting the importance of venturing out.Mindset and Self-Worth in Speaking: Sapphire discusses a book called "Speak Your Way to Cash" and her personal limiting belief about her worth as a speaker. She realized her story empowers others and people will pay to hear it, emphasizing that unique experiences hold value.Belief + Action = Result: The hosts stress that belief alone is not enough; action is crucial for achieving results, using the analogy of Mindset, Belief, and Action (MBA).Worthiness and Self-Acceptance: Sapphire shares a quote from Brené Brown: "We do not have to justify our existence. We are worthy now as is." This is reinforced with a cake analogy, where the cake (you) is good as it is, and external efforts are just "icing."The Fallacy of Comparison: The discussion shifts to the irony of comparing one's unique story to others and how it can diminish perceived value. They emphasize that every story is valuable and needs to be heard.Trauma and the American Experience: Kyle asserts that experiencing trauma is almost inevitable in America, especially for people of color, citing personal experiences of growing up in different environments.Slavery and the Work Ethic: Sapphire attributes the ingrained tendency to work harder under pressure, even to burnout, to the historical trauma of slavery, where survival was tied to backbreaking labor. This mindset, she argues, was perpetuated through generations, and the idea that "the harder you work, the more successful you will be" is a fallacy.Finding Value Beyond Effort: Sapphire shares a personal story of hitting rock bottom, realizing that her worth was not tied to accolades or material possessions. She found joy in simple things, understanding that her inherent value remained regardless of external circumstances.The Importance of Understanding History: The hosts discuss how understanding history, particularly the trauma of slavery, is crucial for healing and shifting mindsets for Black Americans, a luxury not always afforded to them.Coexistence and Respect: The conversation highlights the importance of discussing diverse experiences and coexisting respectfully without challenging others' realities or perpetuating negativity.Final Quote: Kyle concludes with a quote: "People sometimes fail to live because they're always preparing to live," encouraging listeners to embrace life now.Please Like, Comment, & Share!About us - www.soulshiftsessions.comCoach Sapphire Starr - www.sapphirestarr.comCoach Kyle McCloud- www.coachkylemccloud.comBecome A Guest - www.soulshiftsessions.comBusiness inquiries - [email protected] us on IG - @soulshiftsessions