294. What Control Is Really Costing You

Send us Fan MailFor years, Anna thought her ability to control everything was a strength. Organized. Reliable. Prepared. Turns out it was anxiety, dressed up as competence, and it took a rug-pulling moment in her own life to show her the difference.Join Anna and Tim as they dig into what control is actually costing you, your presence, your intimacy with the people you love, your creativity, your ability to bounce back when things don't go the way you planned. They talk about the difference between influencing a situation and controlling it, why chasing certainty is not the same thing as chasing excellence, and the coaching question Anna asks her clients the moment they catch themselves gripping too tight. What am I actually afraid would happen if I let this go? This isn't about eliminating uncertainty from your life. It's about becoming someone who can be okay without it.This Episode Covers:Why being organized, reliable, and always prepared can actually be anxiety in disguise.How control turns into emotional insurance, and why that insurance quietly becomes a prison.The real difference between pursuing excellence and pursuing certainty.What the research on intolerance of uncertainty actually says about who struggles with chronic anxiety.The coaching question to ask yourself before you white-knuckle your way through something hard.Why influence and control are not the same thing, and why that distinction matters.Anna's five power moves for loosening your grip, including trusting yourself more than your plan.The family of origin patterns that make feeling controlled hit so personally.Until next time, here's to deeper connections and personal growth.Mad love!Book a Discovery Call for Coaching/Therapy: https://calendly.com/badassconfidencecoach/coachingThe podcast is now on YouTube! If you prefer to watch, head over to https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLw3CabcJueib20U_L3WeaR-lNG_B3zYquDon’t forget to subscribe to the Badass Confidence Coach podcast on your favorite podcast platform!CONNECT WITH ANNA:Instagram https://www.instagram.com/askannamarcolin/TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/tag/askannamarcolinEmail [email protected] https://www.annamarcolin.com