#298: 4 X Mindfulness-Returning Back to What Matters Most With Neila Steele and Andy Vasily

Send us Fan MailThis episode of Four Times Mindfulness is an honest conversation between Andy Vasily and Neila Steele about the coping mechanisms we cling to, the regrets that quietly reveal our values, and the relationships that remind us who we are.Four Seeds. Four Takeaways.1. Identify your coping mechanism. We all carry behaviors that once kept us afloat — people-pleasing, numbing, withdrawing — but now hold us back from the shore. The work isn't to drop the log overnight. It's to loosen your grip, slowly and with self-compassion, until you trust yourself enough to let go.2. Let your regrets teach you. Author Daniel Pink's research shows that our deepest regrets — around foundation, boldness, morality, and connection — are actually a map of what we value most. Stop bypassing them with shame. Sit with them long enough and they'll point you straight back to your core values.3. Be a companion, not a rescuer. When someone you love is struggling, the most powerful thing you can offer isn't advice or solutions. It's presence. A hand. A quiet willingness to sit beside them in the dark.4. Don't let the flame quietly go out. When we stop pursuing genuine meaning — in our relationships, our purpose, our inner life — something in us slowly erodes. Andy's reminder: double down on what lights you up and who you want to become. Connection is often where that starts.Books & Resources Mentioned:Eating in the Light of the Moon — Anita JohnstonThe Power of Regret — Daniel PinkLove Bites — Ila Edgar (in memory)The Wisdom of Alignment — Andy Vasily (releasing June 1)FOPO (Fear of Other People's Opinions) — Dr. Michael GervaisConnect With Andy and NeilaNeila: LinkedIn Andy: LinkedIn