#3 - Autism, Identity, and the struggle to belong w/ Nikki

In episode 3, we speak with Nikki, a young autistic woman, about her journey to self-discovery and acceptance. Nikki opens up about what it means to navigate life with a late autism diagnosis, the emotional challenges of masking, and the sense of validation she found in embracing her neurodivergent identity. Together, Haje and Nikki discuss the complexities of growing up as an autistic woman, including the pressure to conform, the struggle to find an understanding therapist, and the alarming rates of abuse faced by autistic women. Nikki also shares practical advice on finding support and community, from connecting with other neurodivergent individuals to discovering safe spaces on social media. This episode shines a light on autism as both a part of identity and a lens through which autistic individuals experience the world—a world often unprepared for them. Join us for an honest conversation that dives deep into resilience, community, and the power of self-acceptance. Trigger Warning: Brief mentions of sexual violence statistics. Listen at your discretion. Topics Covered: • The journey to an autism diagnosis • The importance of neurodivergent therapists • Navigating stereotypes and gender biases in autism • The challenges of masking and self-acceptance • Finding community and connection within the neurodivergent world • Insights into autism and abuse statistics • Nikki’s reflections on identity, resilience, and belonging Nikki Skara received her autism diagnosis in 2023 after a few years of research and speculation. Since then, she has made it her life's goal to promote acceptance and understanding for autistic people of all stripes. Nikki enjoys writing, songwriting, making video essays, gaming, cosplaying, and adding to her ever-increasing Lego collection. She is a proud aunt to four naughty yet adorable cats. Find her on YouTube under @itsnikkis, on TikTok on @nikkisingsandotherthings and Instagram under the same handle (@nikkisingsandotherthings). About Nikki Nikki Skara received her autism diagnosis in 2023 after a few years of research and speculation. Since then, she has made it her life's goal to promote acceptance and understanding for autistic people of all stripes. Nikki enjoys writing, songwriting, making video essays, gaming, cosplaying, and adding to her ever-increasing Lego collection. She is a proud aunt to four naughty yet adorable cats. Find her on YouTube under @itsnikkis, on TikTok on @nikkisingsandotherthings and Instagram under the same handle (@nikkisingsandotherthings).