3. I Tried to Change but My Personality Said No

In this episode, psychotherapist Sarah Dosanjh and coach/somatic practitioner Stefanie Michele unpack the messy truth about personal growth. Can we actually change who we are, or are we just managing symptoms with nicer language? They get real about procrastination, personality quirks, self-perception, and the parts of us that therapy just won't touch. Through personal stories and client insights, they explore the line between acceptance and accountability — and why some things evolve, while others might be here to stay. It's not a self-help pep talk. It's a nuanced look at what we can shift… and what we might need to stop fighting. Stefanie Michele: Instagram Substack Website: Work With Me Wednesday Emails Sarah Dosanjh: YouTube Instagram Website Book: I Can't Stop Eating 00:09 Exploring the Topic of Change 00:44 Personal Reflections on Change 02:22 Stories of Transformation 05:32 Challenges in Personal Growth 09:06 Acceptance and Self-Compassion 15:21 Balancing Acceptance and Accountability 24:50 Dating and Relationship Insights 26:14 Embracing Acceptance Over Fear 26:36 The Struggle with Victimization 27:24 Grounded Decisions and Avoidance 27:50 Ambivalence Towards Relationships 28:28 The Role of Fear in Decision Making 30:50 Personal Anecdotes and Reflections 32:34 Perceptions and Self-Identity 33:53 Family Dynamics and Personal Growth 34:55 The Challenge of Changing Self-Perception 39:41 Desires for Self-Improvement 46:53 Final Thoughts and Reflections