#3| What Grief Looks Like (Even When It’s Not Sadness)

Does your grief show up in ways that don’t look like “typical” sadness? Have you ever wondered why you feel numb, irritated, overwhelmed — or completely fine… until you’re not? Do you catch yourself cleaning, scrolling, or staying busy and wonder, “Is this grief, too?” In today’s conversation, we’re looking at the many faces grief can take — especially the ones society doesn’t talk about. Grief isn’t always tears and long days in bed. Sometimes it shows up as anger, numbness, irritability, over-functioning, silence, or the endless scrolling we do just to escape our thoughts. I share stories from the women I’ve sat with — mothers who laughed in the most impossible moments, who scrubbed their homes top to bottom, who felt nothing at all, or who moved through their days as if everything were fine. Every one of them was grieving. We explore how grief impacts the nervous system, the brain, and the body itself — how fog, exhaustion, and difficulty concentrating aren’t personal failings but physical signs of profound loss. And together, we walk through gentle ways to support yourself when your grief doesn’t look the way you expected. From noticing without judgment, to grounding your nervous system, to offering yourself one honest moment a day… this episode gives you permission to let your grief be exactly what it is. You are allowed to feel nothing. You are allowed to feel too much. It’s all grief. It’s all valid. Stay Connected & Supported: Join my private email community for reflections, grief tools, and behind-the-scenes support Related Episodes: Episode: What I Wish I Heard After Losing a Baby Episode: The First Days After Loss — What No One Prepares You For Journal Prompt from Today’s Episode: “How does my grief show up when no one is watching?” Disclaimer: This podcast is for supportive and educational purposes only. I am not a licensed therapist. If you are struggling with your mental health or need professional guidance, please reach out to a licensed mental health provider, grief counselor, or trusted medical professional.   Let’s stay close:  Email → [email protected] Next Steps: Subscribe to receive these gentle conversations each week. Share this episode with someone who may be grieving quietly or questioning whether their grief is “normal.” Leave a review if today’s message helped you feel understood — it helps this space reach others who need comfort and truth. Join the private email community for honest reflections, grounding practices, and weekly support.