#30 - That Never Happened: Why Parents Forget or Deny Your Memories

Why do so many of us clearly remember moments that hurt us as kids, only to be told by our parents that they “don’t remember” or that it “wasn’t that bad”? In this episode, I try to unpack the psychology behind this almost universal experience: how children and parents encode the same event differently, why shame and self‑protection can drive genuine forgetting or denial, and what trauma research says about whose memory is more likely to be accurate as well as how intergenerational trauma can also play a role.Enjoy!