30. Why 80% of Women Don't Experience Sex the Way You Think They Should | Hannah The Libido Fairy

About 80% of women don't experience desire the way you see it in movies.., you know, that random urge that comes out of nowhere and makes you want to jump your partner.Most women need something a little different. This week on the pod I sat down with Hannah (aka The Libido Fairy) who spent years thinking she was broken because sex would start amazing in her relationships and then completely disappear within months. She tried hormones, therapy, toys, even opening her relationship. Nothing worked until she learned how women's bodies actually experience desire.In this episode we talk about:→ The difference between spontaneous and responsive desire (and why 80% of women have responsive desire)→ The 4 warning signs that libido issues are affecting your relationship→ Why sexual satisfaction is the #1 predictor of desire→ How pelvic floor dysfunction and pain kill libido→ Nervous system regulation as the foundation for improving desire→ Pleasure mapping and vulva mapping—gentle practices for reconnecting with your body→ The truth about masturbation for women and why it's not what you think→ How to explore your sexuality without shame (whether you're single or partnered)→ Self-compassion practices for working through pain and negative associations→ Quality over quantity: what "good sex" actually meansIf you've ever avoided your partner's touch because you know where it's going and you just don't want to deal with it, or if sex feels like work or a transaction, or if you've convinced yourself that you're just broken or asexual when really you just haven't been given the right information—this episode is going to help you soo much!! Hannah is now happily married and having great sex, and she's helped thousands of women understand their bodies and their desire in ways their doctors never explained. This conversation might actually shift everything for you.Listen, share it with someone who needs it, and let's stop suffering in silence about this stuff.Follow Hannah:Instagram: @thelibidofairyWebsite: www.thelibidofairy.comPodcast: The Libido Fairy PodcastCome say hi to me:Instagram: @thefemaleathletedocWebsite: threesixtywellness.coKeywords: libido, low libido, responsive desire, spontaneous desire, sexual satisfaction, pelvic floor dysfunction, pelvic floor pain, vaginismus, vulvodynia, nervous system regulation, sex feeling like a chore, avoiding intimacy, women's sexuality, masturbation, pleasure mapping, self-compassion, sexual health, desire discrepancy, intimacy issues