Sir, zag, zag, zag, zag zag zag, sir, Arlit ocean. Whose fucking low, dude? Katheri, What? I am not Elsa.
I just want you to know that. What does that mean? I am not... I am not Elsa from fucking Frozen.
The cold bothers me every day. Every fucking... Like, what a... Like, it's fucking March, Katheri.
It's like mid-March. It's supposed to be... We're in California, it's supposed to be butterflies and fucking hummingbirds and shit. Like, Do-du-du-du-du-du-du.
Creeping out. You know, and being like, Oh, let us now, Fralloch. in this in the glorious spring weather of California and it's like fucking last night snow went down to like literally you can just see it all over the Mountains, right? What the fuck first of all when have you ever frolicked I would be frolicking with never frolicking more than I'm frolicking now Literally, I'm sitting here and I know I know I know by guess listeners who are everywhere other than California the fact that it's you know got into the 30s last night You know is embarrassing I get it.
I get it. But I'm literally it's like 50 degrees I mean like two sweaters and a jacket How in the car? Oh, hey, man, I fucking hear you. I'm not even living in a car like you and I'm freezing at night I'm chilly.
It's chilly. Kathy. I watch my fucking fishing show and that guy just ice fishes all season And he's like oh and he's out there and it's fucking minus tan and he's like I don't need the pop-up tan I ain't no pussy and I'm like well I am motherfucker It's chilly and I want a hot cocoa to start the show with Wait, aren't you on a Starbucks? You should be able to go get yourself a hot cocoa It's a big no fucking $5 for a fucking cup of hot cocoa you are when you go to 99 cents Don't get 10 packets for that.
It's you devil. I did cheat motherfucker You know what I'm cheap, but I eat I survive I have a tiger whatever fine Let's start a frosty winter wonderland show the following show is for mature audiences only listener discretion is advised And if you don't like it, please go fuck yourself one two three four do you feel your sex life is quite lame? Scared that your desires might be straight Come and join the kid came out of play Oh And welcome to perverted podcast the show where we explore the adventures of the kinky lifestyle sex and the human mind Recording live from a dark and stormy night. I'm Kathy.
I'm Count Boogie. Don't make fun of me. It's chilly. I Can't help it.
I just an image of you sitting there just freezing and shaking in a car I know most people would feel sorry for you, but that makes me fucking laugh. I literally it's like I look like I'm bundled up for Antarctica And it's like 50 degrees. I'm like I think it's because it rained and it's wet cold So it's wet cold and I only have sweats and and crocs on so my feet are been cold all day Don't you have regular shoes? Do you only have crocs?
I do but then your feet sweat and then they get icky and you know It's like gross and but I did wash my balls and feet today and storage and I feel good about that We should probably move on balls clean balls and feet. That's not that's good I'm balls and feet, but it's still cold. I was thinking too I'm like who can I call because it's like every time I take a shower or clean my balls. I'm like oh my god Don't waste this I should somebody should be touching this Somebody's mouth should go on this dick.
It's clean And then there's nobody and then I sigh and I'm like oh another month another month until the vaccine shows up You have the saddest fucking life, but it's entertaining to everybody else. What's going on with you? I had breakfast with my Michelle and Bob you don't want oh very good. How did that go?
It went really well. Do you know that the two of those assholes have lost so much weight? It's ridiculous They've totally gone on this your quest there. They're not just sitting there during the pandemic doing nothing.
They're like exercising and dieting They look absolutely fabulous. Well fantastic. That's good to hear. So was there some whether there's some talky talk of a Titilation of the the gynation of the Michelle Asian Oh my god We talked about the show and how you tried to pit me out and we all laughed and had a good time We're gonna get together again in a couple of weeks and have another breakfast now that we've caught up and everybody's all happy Even though I got to tell you creative explorer having lost 50 pounds Michelle and Eddie probably collectively having lost like a hundred pounds and Fat-ass me just sitting there, you know eating my breakfast while they're all oh I'll do the light version.
Oh, I'll just have egg whites and that was not a terribly That perspective yeah, well more syrup and pancakes for me motherfucker. I can lose a foot pancakes are good I have another help in a hash browns. Thank you very much. Thank you very much.
That's number two. I Enjoyed myself and we are going to you know talk some more later. I just I haven't seen them in so long It was fabulous catching up with them. Well, I'm glad they're doing good.
Hopefully we can get it back on the show pretty soon And it's just the ever slow process of you getting your fingers inside of a vagina again But you know what you know, you know what I wish you know No, that's the point is that we're not on this mission you seem to be on this mission alone leave me to myself I will get my own play partners. Okay, you don't need to find it for me Kelly I'm sitting here with clean testicles that no one can touch and you have a giant is waiting for you And you just not going for it. That's very insulting to someone like me. Here's my answer to that.
I don't Care what you think boogie. That's your life. This is mine I will touch vaginas when I want to touch the giant whatever cafe just live the loser dream eat some more hash browns and lose a Fun I can tell that you work with your Okay We have a post on fat life that absolutely fits the poly sanity theme here because it's all about monogamy and non monogamy It's written by Lola Rose 35 and it's called I can't promise monogamy and she says I can promise transparency Honestly trust respect and companionship I won't promise that I won't get a crush on someone that I won't develop feelings with another person or that I won't fall in love with someone In addition to you I will promise that I can give you a safe space when you need to talk through your insecurities jealousy and frustrations when we Accidentally trip an emotional land mind. I will help reassure you that you still hold a special place in my life I don't promise monogamy.
I do promise that when you hear the words. I love you. I mean it The money Mike boom There's a polyway turn around see what the reaction is maybe come back. It's some nookie walk back away Yeah, I saw this and I was like yes, that is so matter of fucking fact that is like pre-requisite reading for anyone curious about Entering a poly relationship.
That's why I loved it so much. This was an example of someone articulating exactly What you can expect in a relationship that we have both said is going to be non monogamous This is what to expect and it was to the point it shared amazing depth in the fact of what? Poly was to that person and I love that I really wish everyone could have that approach to entering their poly relationships But that's not what happens Kathy. No, it is not That's why this post was so exciting because I'm like, you know goddamn it You know exactly what you're gonna get with this person and they make Considerations for your feelings they understand that there's gonna be landlines This is somebody that understands a non monogamous relationship, right?
But it's not always like that Kathy No, it's not and I mean this post is perfectly describes what polyamory is and it also perfectly explains why Large majority of people will never attempt polyamory Because it's just too damn hard for most people and I get it I'm not being judgmental and calling them weak it is an incredibly difficult thing to do You have to be very committed to it because unless you happen to be I don't know a sociopath or somebody who can compartmentalize Your emotions so well that that kind of shit doesn't bother you you're gonna have issues and it's gonna suck It's gonna be hard. So as an example creative explorer is talking to someone else He's got me he's got another play partner and now he's talking to a third person whom we both know and he's played with before and There they did have a good amount of compatibility and the question arose as to how I would feel giving up some time if they were to start playing and I'm not gonna go into the particulars but as committed as I am to polyamory and Never living a monogamous life the demons pop up automatically and I go oh my god. I'm being replaced I'm now I'm somebody else is intruding on my territory the difference is I don't freak the fuck out when those feelings come I don't like them they don't make me feel good and I wish they would go away because they interfere with my life but I'm not upset that they're there because I don't think they make me a bad person and as as just a little side example if I Were at work and somebody and I was I don't know Let's say managing an office and I was doing a really good job And then my boss called me in after a few years where I thought I was doing really good and my boss tells me Hey, I'm gonna hire somebody else because I want them to come in and help you do the job They're gonna have a desk right next to you. You're gonna have to give up some of your space.
I'd be like what what what Don't you think I'm doing a good job? Are you firing me my being demoted? I would be an insecure fucking bitch and I would have to get to the bottom of what's going on And it would make me feel terrible. I don't think that feelings of insecurity and doubt and jealousy are solely happened within a polyamorous relationship They are everywhere in life because that's what we do as human beings We settle down we nest we create around us a life that we're comfortable with and that we enjoy and when that life is Interfered with or threatened even in a tiny way it makes us extremely uncomfortable Polyamory is no different here here.
God damn it parallels to life are absolutely true There are so many things where change and jealousy occur that have nothing to do with lover relationships You know it's anytime something changes and you feel that you're going to lose something that you felt you had ownership of This is my time. This is my space. These are my things This everything's in order just like you talked about people really do for a for a universe of chaos and a biology of chaos Humans are very very quick to forget that it's no different in the middle It's going to be chaos life is going to have changes There are going to be things when you talked about your change that came in that is absolutely a valid feeling because this poster Kind of set up front. This is how it's going to be and listed You know what to expect but that doesn't take away from the fact that when your time that you have set that you've been used to is All of a sudden going to be taken from you and given to another person that is absolutely a valid feeling to be like wait a minute That's my time that belongs to me that is mine me me me me me and that's where the looking at yourself to ask Do I actually own this person or do I own myself?
And that's what I'm always having to face whenever the world doesn't follow my script or something I have gets taken away from me. It really comes down to what do I actually own and the answer is nothing Nothing is permanent and everything can change and one of the things about poly that is positive is that when you're working it in a healthy way Those changes though uncomfortable. They stop shocking you after a while I don't get shocked anymore by life. I learned things in my poly relationships that now work in my regular life because I know I Don't have ownership of everything.
Does that kind of make sense? Yeah, you absolutely carries over into other areas of your life And these lessons are so valuable to me I the very few times but you that I talked to I talked to people who are not in the community in any way About being polyamorous. It's such a fucking uphill battle to discuss any of this with them because they're so Resistant and so I don't know afraid. I'm gonna say they're afraid.
They don't even like discussing it. I get it They don't want to but I one of the things that I always think of is you just have no idea how much I've learned that carries over Into other areas of my life that benefits me greatly doesn't mean that I couldn't learn them any other way But you tackle those hard issues and your polyamorous relationships. You're like can only improve in other areas. That's my absolute firm belief I absolutely agree with you Going off into the next topic when you approach somebody because everyone's poly is different You know, there's different types this poly was very much I'm going to go out and have other relationships with other people that you may or may not be involved with so there's other Poly dynamics like my poly was a triad and we all kind of did things together and when we had new partners We kind of took them on together everyone gets to have what their situation is that they negotiate it What is important and what I see a lot of times is People they hear that, you know, they'll see somebody that just says This is the way I am and I've had it with me a bunch of times because I'm very upfront.
This is who I am I'm not monogamous. I'm gonna do this this and this and just like the poster said when I am with you I am with you and I'm interested and invested in you and invested in your positive outcome and I want to work through that But I need you to think through this Because a lot of people don't a lot of people don't set up those what if situations they don't sit when somebody approaches them So matter of fact and upfront, I think a lot of people don't actually just sit by themselves and walk through that what if what happens when I'm now invested in this person and all the oxytocin and stuff is flowing and Somebody comes in and starts, you know, all that new relationship energy with the other person and I'm not getting as much time What is that going to be like for me? Why am I going to deal with that? I know a lot of people that come in and this is the biggest this is my biggest P And people that are maybe inexperienced with poly Is they kind of think of it as a phase and the end game for them is they'll go mono for me.
Yeah I'll start with this poly thing. I've had this I have had this I'll start this thing and I understand but you know eventually They're gonna see how amazing I am and then I will be completely good enough for them. Yikes You I'm so my god. I cannot tell you how many times it's like that I mean, it's like that not even in polyamorous But just in like the dating world even in the monogamous dating world like when people are like yeah, I'm dating and you know I'm not interested in being in a relationship with right now with anyone but I enjoy time with you blah blah blah blah blah And then people are like oh, yeah, I'll convert them right they'll marry me So this isn't just repoly this happens in in monogamous dating too But what happens at that moment is you are now being in authentic because you're now entering into this relationship with an agenda a methodical manipulative agenda To undermine all of your partners other partners and to eventually push them all out of the picture at whatever cost to them of pain and suffering And you're trying to change somebody who has told you who they are as a person and you're not respecting those boundaries By trying to make them be monogamous.
Yeah, I've seen it I've seen it multiple times and it's actually it's and I'm pretty sure in some ways maybe I thought that surely in the dating world I'm like, oh, yeah, I'm awesome They'll fucking just want to be with me and then they're like no no I got three other partners and you're like oh Okay, maybe I'm not so cool I'm not that awesome now. I'm like whatever I get it. I'm not awesome. Okay, I get cold in 50 degree weather I wear three sweaters my feeder cold and you're wearing crocs mister.
Whatever crocs breathe Yeah, well that cold there just goes in between your toes. It's true in between my frigid soul So I think it's really important that the only way because I've done that to people too like I've been in relationships where I have set The this is who I am and then after a couple months They start bitching and whining like oh I thought it was gonna be this way or that way at that point There's not many things Kathy that I believe are all on one person or the other We talk about that all the time where it's like everyone has some sort of responsibility that we share in every conflict Or thing that occurs that's a challenge in a relationship in something like this I have a really hard time figuring out if I have shared with you who I am and who I am going to be and who I wish to be and Six months from now. I'm still that person. I told you I was and you're upset by it.
That's on you That's that's you having expectations that were unrealistic. Yeah, that's that's honestly if that's what you're thinking That speaks to much more than than just you're not good at polyamory You've got some serious shit going on if you are so immature that you walk in with that mentality You got a whole lot of other problems in life if that's the way you see things and that's the way you approach things Well, I mean I'm not gonna say I'm a pillar of maturity in a million other ways But I do I definitely do see in this regards that would be a maturity as well It was a really good post short post but right to the point and really allowed us to run free with a polyscented topic Pointions that would be two two to four to twelve separate women that are not enjoying my clean testicles and junk Why why you gotta talk about your junk I'm talking look I'm poking it. Yeah. Hi everybody in Starbucks drive-throughs.
I'm poking my my junk At least I'm in a closed room when I poke at my junk, you know, you haven't lived Kathy's you just haven't lived All right, boogie, what are we gonna be discussing Catherine? I'm so glad you asked because today we are going to enter into we haven't done bedroom rodeo in a long time That's true, and I was thinking about some things I've done with lovers and how it is a mixed bag Some are like no, no, no, no like you and bunny were like no they weren't into it But some were very into it and the thing that I was speaking of that which now if vine isn't In the lingices don't leave hot there's a time you should do it and a time you should not make them take a shower first Then you hope of the best but prepare for the worst Don't tickle time right in the rim Naughty fun for her for him team lick lick by the pussy you dig it makes some come super hard in this other Boogie boogie boogie what am I going to do with you Kathy? I'm talking about Ain't a link eat Goodness you're creeping me out here so obviously this and I think we've talked about this on the show before this is not a Thing that you are into but it is for the people that are into it and for the people that prepare correctly for it This can be a wildly exciting sensation that some people are nuts for right absolutely go bonkers For the feeling of a tongue against the butthole are you that type of person? No now those who like it really are quite fanatical about it and leaves me wondering wow what am I missing out on but you know what?
I'm happy to miss out on that because it does creep me out unfortunately There's nothing wrong with that anal linga so of course now then I did some research besides my own personal life of perverted research I found a good article on be vibe calm backslash forward slash whatever rimming and so that's a really that was a really full article of information That gave a lot of stuff about STIs and how to prepare and even little bits of techniques So I took some ideas from that and then my own basically the what is good about anal linga Now then let's take a minute like because it is the ass and because the ass holds poop people are going to freak out about it And we've all been programmed that this is a no-no spot You do not put your mouth there that is very bad for a minute if we could just take all that paranoia and Programming and just kind of set it off to the side for a second Maybe we can learn what is so amazing about it first off the the sphincter the butthole and about an inch or two Into the butts there are a lot of nerves a lot of very sensitive nerves in that whole area It's like a cluster of nerves all around that area which give incredible sensations Which of course is why a lot of people are so into anal sex part of the anal sex sensation that people love is the entry Around the sphincter so of course a softer wetter warmer sensation around that same area has a very similar like super stimulated effect When you apply your tongue to it right so now we can understand that obviously it probably feels good Some people maybe aren't as sensitive some people are a little more sensitive But if you take away that programming and you just go for the sensation most people will admit it does feel good To like it even if you just play with it in the shower and you just run your finger over it There's a lot of sensation there So the next thing is is well How do you prepare for something like this because it is a butt and there is a danger of poop there because that's what the butts do The same with anal and you're gonna put your mouth there There's things about hygiene. There's things about cleaning There's things about knowing when you are and when you are not ready to receive a tongue on your rim It's called rimming and and that is what is more important first thing you need to do is find a partner that you can talk to you about this Because it's one of those things because it's programmed negatively It's kind of hard to bring up and it's probably not one of those things you just go for I don't think I've Where have I hang on a second? Don't want to lie I don't think I've ever hold on a second though Hold on a second there. I have no No, I'm usually pretty I've talked to my partners about do they like this do they not like this and like with me and bunny They were like okay.
Well, we'll try it and of course we went into the shower They scrubbed really well And a lot of times you do it in the shower if that makes you feel a little bit better because obviously that's clean You're very clean some nice warm soapy water you get everything out of there. It's it's it's good They didn't find it particularly the entertaining, but I do did have a couple partners that were like oh, yeah Oh, yeah, yeah, that's good you insert a finger while you're doing that and we're we're good to go Yes, so so other things can you get STI's from it? Yes? Of course you can depending on if there are micro abrasions around around the anus that of course can lead to the spread of Bacteria's STI's if you have cold sores and you go down you can be spreading You know mouth or if you's anal anal mouth back and forth if you're with people that you're new and you haven't done then obviously Using some sort of barrier protection is also good And I find the barrier protection makes you more aggressive because you're not as hung up about am I putting my tongue on Poop so using a dental dam or even just Saran wrap with a little bit of lube on the butthole side Will give a lot of sensation and give you a little bit of barrier protection.
Oh, yeah barriers remove the poop element altogether Then it's a possibility. Okay, so now that's something you can almost put your head around I can kind of wrap my mind around that. I don't I just find it very hard to imagine that anybody could clean their butt They're anus and their rectum to such a degree that I It's all gonna be clean. I just can't I can't imagine it there will be poop there I am absolutely convinced of it and I don't want I don't want any part of me next to it Let alone but my mouth would be the last body part.
I would ever want near the well on a micro on a micro level Yes, Kathy if you go down on a vagina or you lick under if you suck someone's balls You're getting with this. Yes, you are getting poop in your mouth people get Hands on you know no matter how well you clean. I know that it's out there. I just don't want my mouth next to it I don't want the entry and exit point.
I do not want my mouth there and no matter how much I try I think like what you mentioned a barrier protection would be one way I might give it a try I just don't think I would I would gain any pleasure from it I would be trying it just to see if I could do it fair enough fair enough I once again if you can't get over the headspace You're probably not going to be able to enjoy the sensation. It's that's that's just the way it is but for those who can You know, I don't know if there's research on your you know microbes per square poop fecal inch out on On what it is, but all I know is I stuck my tongue in a lot of buttholes and my tongues never fallen off I didn't taste or smell shit because the person clean first. We knew going into it that this was a possibility It's usually after right after a shower that you'll do some anal play like that Some people are even less hung up about that And they just kind of go for it whenever but I think it's something that you should really consider that if it's something that you're curious About that shouldn't be something that you're shamed for no I mean because it is a pretty incredible sensation for those who enjoy it and especially the times that we've currently Living I mean my god you could pull up any a number of websites that will give you so much information I remember when I was a teenager and you had to order a book like the only book out there that was one book Everything anal and you and that was your sole source of information and now oh my god There's so much out there that it's a great time to try something new because you're gonna read every aspect of a new sex act from the safety element To how to enjoy it more to how to approach your Perspective partner so much about every topic that this is a it's a wonderful time to explore and link us Absolutely once again be vibe calm slash rimming to get a little bit more information on that if you're curious talk with your partners on That article it talked about how to bring up the subject with your partners It's the same as bringing up any kink with your partners if you're the one curious about it Then you can ask your partner Hey, are you curious about anything to do with but stuff or or does any of that interest you and then start your conversation that way There are ways to have this conversation and ultimately you need to know that it is okay to have whether your male female does not matter Analangas is something that has sensations for everybody and if you're into trying it Just do it safely protect yourself and try to have some fun in the bedroom. That's right Anything fun going on this week sexually for you or are you still here with us in in lameness?
Well, nothing like there's definitely been some flirting and kind of like planning for after I get my second dose at the end of the month But today I did make it down to the pleasure chest Which is a local sex shop here in LA and got myself a magic wand of the magic wand they still make those they do It's just not Hitachi anymore. Oh, yeah rebranded it to just the magic wand and so now Yeah, they definitely still sell it and they specifically sell this as a it's now just a sexual vibrator They don't try to pretend that it's a massager anymore Is it the solid one like Hitachi used to make or is it one of the you know the other offshoots because you can get the shitty Hitachi magic wand right online for 20 bucks and they work pretty good But they're not the solid monster that was the OG Hitachi magic wand No, this is definitely the solid monster Like I specifically got the one that plugs into the wall right because I want that that sort that level of power that comes with that So right, you know, I I didn't get the base model But I did get the metal model where it has like varying settings and whatnot so I definitely splurged a bit today Well, congratulations, I hope you know it doesn't collect dust But it's kind of cool because you can turn it on and it you can watch it shake off the dust I guess if you're really desperate that's sad also I've discovered in the last couple of months. I won't go to detail for you, but I have discovered that a one feels pretty nice down there Absolutely, it doesn't freak me out at all for you to talk about that because that is part of healthy masturbation I myself have tried putting the Hitachi Magic wand on the tip of my dick on the side. I'm under it.
Just it feels like kind of cool You know like a massage, but there's nothing like a rousing to it. Do you get aroused using it? It's like it feels really good and it definitely something that helps during masturbation, but I don't stay hard during it Right feels really good So I'll like I'll do the super erogenous zone for a little bit and then go back to jerking off and then come back to it But like I don't just use the magic wand on there like maybe like right at the end But yeah, I don't just use it as a masturbator fair enough fair enough. I know some Some guys really respond well to it.
I've heard from a lot of female dominance who use it on their male subs and just Literally that sensation is enough to make them pop so So very good very good. See I'm not that squicky. It's important You know our listeners, you know need to know that there's options for them in their master but Tory practices I'm not that prude. No, you are not boogie.
You're a good sex educator. That's oh wow now. I'm a sex educator Somehow that officialness just kind of I don't know So you got a couple topics really good topics a research and then a fun one Let's can we start with the the research one? Yes, we can so this article comes from the University of Indiana And the article is called majority of women sex many use dating apps to find partners global study Finds so the study is based off of research from over a hundred thousand women and close to 200 countries They wanted to specifically look at the differences outside of North America in Europe where a lot of research like this is usually focused And because of that you get a lot of bias right and one so one surprise from that was that women culture in countries where the gender Inequality was a lot higher actually had a lot more women sexing and using sex based apps This leans into the idea on prohibition tell people they can't do it.
They will find a wave right right So these same women also reported using these apps to reform their own sexual relationships So they wasn't just for kind of self pleasure and master for reasons They actually use it in their relationships and in their in their couple lean pairings So they've told the researchers that many of these women and these cultures don't necessarily need sex ed 101 like we often look at Kind of other countries as the other and maybe they're they're in need of like, you know Put a condom on and like this is what a penis is level of sex ed But they don't necessarily need that what they need is more concrete comprehensive sexual education, right? So the most exciting the most exciting thing most exciting findings Excuse me was that the act of seeking out information about sex whether it was for education or just fun Sexing was a positive experience I think we often hear and we've even talked about on the show a couple of times the negative side of what women have to deal with on the internet with Dick pics and unsolicited like I Can reach out to like a dozen women and all every single one of them will have somebody who try to reach out to them about sex With like no prompting right and so this research shows that there is a brighter side for women and sex on the internet I like this research I thought that it was good that it was so vast and that they tried to be Kind of encompassing of other areas, but it also kind of raised some questions Which you know we got a shit on every study that you know comes out and try to find out what's wrong with it because apparently That's what you and I do so the thing that was interesting is when it said the women from countries that are More put down like I get what it's less equal more patriarchal and women are you know kind of treated worse That they had a four times higher likelihood to be involved in either receiving or sending sexing messages So when I saw either receiving or sending it kind of said well is it which one? You know because if it's a if it's a place where men don't think is highly of women then maybe they're just programmed to be To tolerate it, you know like oh I'm supposed to take dick pics and whatever because this society tells me that I'm less than a man And I should just you know this is what I do I'm just a whole for a fucking man Right so I don't know so that's where I was kind of like you know because that seems like a lot four times more And I understand your point of view where it's the prohibition thing where it's like hey You know they'll rebel where they can rebel But it would be interesting if they got more specific On whether or not the women in those situations in those countries were more the aggressors in the sexting as opposed to being the recipient of it Does that make sense? That does make sense and I think that I didn't go delve into the full art research article which is linked on the website right right but Yeah, I definitely agree that looking at which direction the messages are coming from is definitely important because as they're saying a lot of these cultures They've just been and indoctrinated a certain way for so long that if a Man reaches out they're kind of programmed to respond in a positive way because otherwise something negative will probably happen sure Oh, yeah, I definitely respect that but as far as the other data I thought it was really encouraging that so many that it's getting more leveled Yes, and I like this type of research because it validates.
Oh, yes women like to seek sex too Right, you know, it's like we're breaking women have sexuality women and other cultures are sexual I think there was one statistic where it said the highest level of women that were looking for booty calls in dating apps was East Africa Which I thought was great and I'm like, uh, hey, uh, enigma so you want to get a flight? You know We could because I'm always trying to find where's like the horniest place where the women are the least hung up about sex And just are like oh, I like you. This is good. Let's go fuck like I want to know what country is the best at that So now East Africa according to this data moves a little bit into that and I'm interested But what's really cool now getting back to more of the serious stuff because you know, I'm a serious guy as a sex educator It's very very very important very serious Very professional sex educator Yes, one of the things that is exciting about this is I was just talking to one of our listeners on the phone Who was kind of looking for better partners, but they live in a rural kind of area I mean not necessarily a small city, but it's just not a wide open.
There's not a lot of choices Well, it's kind of like your experience when you were in Texas sure that is one of the benefits of branching out now of course You know, there's a lot of problems with that You know, it's easier to be manipulated and lied to in an internet relationship Because the person has more chances to think about what they're going to write to you What how they're going to approach you what they're going to let you see about their life I mean you can literally you have no idea who you're really talking to as opposed to dating someone in real time and meeting them in public places And maybe even they're from your local area or work or you know, you at least have some source of knowing What type of person they are right? But it really is if you don't have a lot of options In your area, especially when you start talking about are they kinky? Do they like my types of kinks, you know, are they compatible in communication? Online is is other than moving online.
It's really your only option. Yeah, well, no, like I definitely think Like that's actual education across like all of the countries like where like this article it shows that that education is there But the like you were saying about looking into which direction the chats are coming from like there's still a lot of misguided information and there's still a lot of indoctrination that guides how people approach things and so like if you're out in a rural area and you don't have a lot of options Like if you don't if you don't know what to look for you don't know what to look for And so that's why I think Podcasts like ours and educators like us and Lindsey doe and a lot of other places a lot of other educators on the internet Like their main job is kind of reaching those people who don't necessarily have That accurate information or have just been inside of a certain community for so long that they don't know any other way Um, like I often get told it's like oh you've gone all day because I'll say something like oh, yeah I'm trying you know almond milk for a while to see how that works and it's just because like I got a lot of it Yeah, like I got the hell out of Texas and I'm trying new things like there's nothing wrong with it But like somehow the fact that I'm trying almond milk is like it's like changing me on Right he hasn't ridden a horse in months. Oh my god All right, so another article that I really liked this comes from seven news This is a news station out of australia and the article is called furries uncovered What life is really like for the misunderstood fandom? So as I said this writer is from Perth, Australia So a shout out to our ossie listeners But but a lot of this is still gonna be translatable across other aspects of this self-culture So as many of those within the furry community, you know that just what it looks like from the outside is not actually what it is Hell if you've ever accidentally walked by your local furry convention.
Have you ever truly lived? The author don't differ sauna to really experience a local convention local convention properly First thing he noticed was that he First thing he noticed was just how free he could be within the suit since he was basically anonymous He could be way more outgoing and playful than he would be on a typical day For him and for the furry whom he was being guided by it's escaped escapism One side of the fandom that comes out is the more sexual side of it And while this is the more advertised aspect, it really isn't a huge part of the major culture according to his source I do remember one of the first kinks i kink things i ever saw on tv was on an episode of the original csi Where they were investigating a death at a furry convention and this sexual aspect of it was a huge part of the show Like this was the first kink thing i ever saw on tv was furries Which by the way for our listeners that don't know what furries are that's basically a cot We should have started with that probably probably That's when somebody gets in a full costume kind of like kind of like the mascot from a sports event Where you get in your raccoon or a dog or a cat or some creature But it's like a full you're our inside a full costume Yes, exactly and a lot of the if you look into kind of the history of furries That's actually kind of where a lot of it comes from is it kind of started with mascots and it and it exploded from there Sure, but again that sort of sexual aspect is just kind of a minority of the culture and what the media likes to play up So but the kind of the summary of this article i'll just quote this directly from the writer I was so so confident it was unbelievable. I was surprising myself with what with what I felt comfortable doing I was dancing in the streets. I'd never do any of that stuff without a furry outfit It showed a different side of me that I didn't even know For me this article really resonated for me for my halloween scare Sauna if you want to call it like a right Sauna it's a scare Sauna like when I'm in that makeup or in that mask like especially in 2019 when I worked for A haunted attraction here in LA like I was in a full costume full mask like you could not see me unless I told you who it was Or you couldn't recognize me unless I told you who it was And it was just I could literally do not do whatever I wanted about it There's that feeling of like I could be whatever I wanted and I can just like fuck with people and It's just there's it's this level of freedom that you don't get to be when you're just you know in your in your normal normal everyday Meet suit so like I definitely understand this aspect of getting inside of a costume and just becoming a different person I think it's it's definitely a magical experience and I would like you can get like the first suit that they they use in this article and in the video if you want to find the article Is it's his full-on mascot suit with like zippers and a full hood and like it's it's huge But you can do some versions of this and get that aspect of it at a not as you know expensive level Just to like feel that experience of freedom Feel that experience of just being able to Live literally in another skin for a while and get to be another person and just kind of like enjoy that freedom Because it's not like something we get to experience every day I was super excited about this and because Kathy and I had talked on the show I don't know a couple months ago That we didn't have a great understanding of furries because there wasn't I mean there was one or two furries at threshold That came in, you know, maybe once or twice in the 10 years that we were there And so we didn't really have a lot of people to talk about you know what that headspace of being a furry was So we could just speculate but what was great about this article that was like that big aha moment for me was the escapism And how many people are so socially challenged And I thought it was amazing that the person that wrote the article got in the suit themselves as a non furry And was able to just see what happens when you're able to drop your guard And that's what we do in the kink lifestyle everything we do is about Letting go of those restrictions that society puts on us and tells us you can't do this You can't do that and how exciting it is When you can actually just kind of be free and then of course You know without the mask like in public play or with your partners or whatever you can be silly You can do roleplays you can become other people It's just I didn't understand that connection until the author of this article said it.
It's escapism So it's basically my quote is outgoing without alcohol for the socially challenged because you're not going to be seen because even though In the kink lifestyle, you know, we learn how to let down our guard and be ourselves There's a whole nother world when you're actually nobody knows who you are Because even even in the dungeon you're still kind of fronting a little bit, you know Like hey, I'm this and I'm that but when it gets to that point to where you really nobody knows who you are There's no real risk obviously you're not going to commit crimes or you know stuff like that But if you're just going to want to be silly or dance It almost becomes very much like a little like you're becoming child like again So where you can dance for people and high five and and make little wiggle dances and stupid stuff that you do like when you're a kid Which is why so many like the littles community that isn't sexual is very adamant that they say they're not sexual because it's not all there is A lot of people I talk to the friend today who's not kinky and you know, I tell her all about the stuff We're gonna talk about and whatever and she's like, oh, that's that sex How do you have sex in those costumes sex sex sex and I go it's not all about sex for everybody for some people it is It's just it's really that mindset that is so amazing. It was just a great article Yeah, and like they even said an article like it is an aspect of the community It's just not necessarily one that is as prominent as like the conventions and that sort of thing But it is definitely a part of the of the subculture. This was this was really good, man Thank you so much for bringing this what uh if the kids want to get ahold of us Where do they go? Well, they can find us on twitter at perverted pikas They can find us on scram at perverted podcast and if they want to get all of our links and they want to find links to the articles that we're talking About today they can find us on fettlife to search for a perverted podcast is both a group and a page Have got to the end of show three zero two if you have a question You're wrestling with or just want to say hi right to us at perverted podcast at gmail.com or message us on perverted podcast profile Huntfettlife.com.
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