303. Day 9: Divorce & the Holidays | Why Asking For Help Feels So Threatening

The holidays after divorce don’t hurt because you’re single.They hurt because they force you to confront how unsafe it feels to need support.In this Day 9 episode of 12 Days of Divorce Christmas, we talk about the hidden, hardest part of life after divorce—asking for help. Not logistically, but emotionally. Not politely, but vulnerably.If feeling safe, seen, and supported came naturally to you, this wouldn’t be the relationship you ended up in—and it wouldn’t be how it ended. So when the holidays raise the volume on need, asking for support can feel threatening, activating, or even shame-inducing.Producer Joy joins me to explore what keeps so many women stuck in invisibility—especially during the holidays and heading into the New Year. We talk about worthiness, vulnerability, and the very real fear that comes with letting yourself be witnessed after divorce.This episode invites you to slow down and ask: – What do I actually need right now? – Who has shown me they’re safe enough to ask? – What would it look like to make one honest, aligned request?This isn’t about forcing vulnerability or asking people to give what they’ve never shown they can. It’s about reclaiming your right to matter—and letting it begin with you.If the holidays after divorce are making it painfully clear how hard it is to need support, this episode will help you understand why—without judgment, pressure, or pretending you’re ready for more than you are.You’re allowed to feel the fear. And you’re allowed to ask anyway.Support the showYou can't think your way into healing 🥵 You have to practice your way there 👭If you're ready for the next step, learn more about  A Different D Word and apply here ✨