303 — Stop Trying to Fix People’s Problems—Here’s How to Truly Connect Instead with Psychotherapist Nidhi Tewari

Pre-order ⁠The Mental Strength Playbook⁠ now and get access to pre-order bonuses! What if trying to fix other people’s problems is actually making things worse? When a loved one comes to us with a problem, our first instinct is often to jump in and solve it. But what if the best way to support them isn’t about fixing anything at all? My guest today is Nidhi Tewari, a licensed clinical social worker and expert in the power of attunement. She’s the author of the new book Working Well and today she's talking about how to connect more deeply with the people—both at work and in our personal lives. Some of the things we discuss in this episode are: Why trying to fix someone’s problems often backfires. How to manage your own discomfort when a loved one is struggling. What attunement is and how it builds deeper connections. The neurobiological magic that happens when we truly connect with others. Why asking “What do you need?” is more powerful than assuming. How to repair a relationship when you’ve said the wrong thing. Why “I’m here for you” isn’t always enough—and what to say instead. How to recognize when you’re overstepping or pushing your own agenda. The four key skills to master attunement in your relationships. Subscribe to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Mentally Stronger Premium⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for exclusive content like weekly bonus episodes, mental strength challenges, and office hours with me. Related Episodes ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠49 — 7 Boundary Mistakes That Damage Relationships⁠⁠⁠⁠ 67 — Stop Trying to Fix Your Partner and Focus on Yourself Links & Resources ⁠Working Well Connect with the Show Buy a copy of⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Connect with Amy on Instagram —⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AmyMorinAuthor⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit my website —⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AmyMorinLCSW.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Sponsors Warby Parker — Get 15% off + Free Shipping when they buy 2 or more pairs of prescription glasses at ⁠⁠WarbyParker.com/AMY⁠⁠ Quince — Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/stronger⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping on your order and 365 day returns! AirDoctor — Head to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AirDoctorPro.com ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠and use promo code STRONGER to get UP TO $300 off today! Function Health — Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠functionhealth.com/stronger⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or use gift code STRONGER25 for a $25 credit toward your membership. One Skin — Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠oneskin.co/STRONGER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and use code stronger to get up to 30% off your first 3 subscription orders Rula — Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠Rula.com/STRONGER⁠⁠⁠⁠ for quality therapy that’s covered by insurance Fast Growing Trees — Get an additional twenty percent off better plants at ⁠⁠⁠⁠FastGrowingTrees.com ⁠⁠⁠⁠using the code STRONGER at checkout Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices