31 - Somatic Sexual Education and the Joy of Ecstasy with Caffyn Jesse

CW: This episode contains talk of sex and genital touching. In this episode, Dr. T and Truth Fairy welcome guest Caffyn Jesse to the show. Caffyn is an author, queer elder, and teacher of somatic sexual wellness. In their latest book, Caffyn describes an ongoing inquiry into somatics, the erotic, and psychedelic medicine. Caffyn refers to themselves as an outlaw who cherishes other outlaws. They are a queer person who was born in the days when “it was illegal to be one,” who is involved in the outlaw realms of sex work and psychedelic medicine. They find belonging in intimacies outside the rules and expectations of the ordinary world. The conversation around sex and sex education explores the sacred contract between a client’s voice and the practitioner. Understanding the neuroendocrine system helps the world of somatic sex education and opens the door to empowering the client to request wanted touch rather than submitting to touch they think the practitioner requires. Caffyn feels called to bring a more sophisticated understanding of ethical practices involving the erotic and sexual body touch to practitioners. Dr. T and Truth Fairy both discuss the concept of slowing down and welcoming asking for something over demanding it while exploring the openness of Caffyn’s work. Caffyn encourages bodies to manifest superpowers and for a deeper connection to the soma, the body, by way of sensation, breath, and massage. The themes of somatic sexual understanding that Caffyn studies and teaches lean towards the natural and ecstatic, they can encompass psychedelic work and trauma healing, and focus on alignment of being. There is so much queer exploration, sexual navigation, and ecstatic understanding touched on and talked about with openness and care in this episode. Caffyn provides a caring and studied perspective on topics not often discussed openly enough. “... this rhythm of going, like going for ecstasy, going for the ecstatic, finding that place that's as far as possible from equilibrium and then experiencing the orgasmic return to equilibrium, that is actually a practice that we're constantly doing. We can tune in to doing it with every breath where we go into this arousal, this aliveness.” - Caffyn Jesse __ About Caffyn Jesse: Caffyn Jesse is a queer elder, sacred intimate, teacher and writer who revels in the power and pleasures of the erotic. They are a renowned teacher of sex, intimacy and healing trauma with pleasure. Encouraging neuroplastic change to support sexual healing and expanded pleasure, unwinding sexual trauma, exploring the intersection of sex and spirit, creating erotic community are all core to their work and play. Caffyn is a tireless advocate of embodied love. Caffyn offers an online program on The Art and Science of Sacred Intimacy. They host regular “office hours” where you can meet, connect and ask questions. They also offer a program on psychedelic medicine integration. Caffyn explores a weave of Psychedelic Medicine, Somatic Sexual Wellness, Queer Ecology and Transformative Justice. Their many books include Ecstatic Belonging, Love and Death in a Queer Universe, Elements of Intimacy, Sensual Man, Science for Sexual Happiness, Intimacy Educator: Teaching with Touch, Orientation: Mapping Queer Meanings and Pelvic Pain Clinic. Caffyn taught for many years at the Institute for the Study of Somatic Sex Education, as well as offering workshops on topics ranging from pelvic pain to sex in long-term relationships, and a trauma training for professionals who touch. __ Contact Punk Therapy: Patreon: Patreon.com/PunkTherapy Website: PunkTherapy.com Email: [email protected] Contact Caffyn Jesse: Website: EcstaticBelonging.com “Ecstatic Belonging: A Year on the Medicine Path” by Caffyn Jesse Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.