31. The dark moments in parenting no one talks about in the playground

There is that fine line that we can cross as parents when what our child does or says provokes us. It is that line that line that denotes that we are dealing with and talking to our child - and not another adult. We modify our language We dial down the volume We engage in less threatening body language. After all, we are talking to a child, right!? But most parents will recognise that once the surge of cortisol and adrenalin rushes through the blood and gears you up for fight or flight, it can feel hard to think straight. To get the thinking brain back online again. In this primal state - we can come off as scary to our children. And it is in those, less rosy parenting moments, that our own inner critic has a field day; "I am not a good parent""No one else would behave like that""I need so much therapy"These are human moments that most parents will encounter - but that few will talk about. And maybe, it feels like there's no alternative to the immediate reaction. No stop button to push once the train has left the station. Oscar Van Rooij and I are exploring what happens in these difficult parenting moments, and what we can do to begin to regulate ourselves and recognise the signs that we are heading into the red zone. This might be just what you needed to hear To get weekly tips and parenting inspiration sent straight to your inbox - head over to www.louise-brooks.com to sign up for my weekly newsletter You can follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/parentingsuccesscoaching/And onFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/