310: How to Reduce Drama With Kids, with Tina Payne Bryson

Tina Payne Bryson: No Drama Discipline Tina Payne Bryson is the co-author, with Dan Siegel, of two New York Times bestsellers, The Whole Brain Child* and No Drama Discipline* — each of which has been translated into over twenty languages. She is a psychotherapist and the Executive Director of The Center for Connection in Pasadena, California, where she offers parenting consultations and provides therapy to children and adolescents. Key Points Much of what we do in the name of discipline is counter-productive. The original meaning of the word “discipline” is to teach. To effectively discipline (to teach kids skills to do better in the future), children have to be in a state of mind in which they can learn. Consequences can be counter-productive. If you’re being an effective disciplinarian, you should be disciplining less over time. “Time-outs” don’t teach kids anything, but taking the time to step away from the situation to talk to your kids does teach. Resources Mentioned No-Drama Discipline: The Whole-Brain Way to Calm the Chaos and Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind* by Daniel Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind* by Daniel Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson The Yes Brain: How to Cultivate Courage, Curiosity, and Resilience in Your Child* by Daniel Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson Tina Payne Bryson’s website Book Notes Download my highlights from No Drama Discipline in PDF format (free membership required). Related Episodes Five Leadership Lessons Learned from Luke (episode 50) How to Improve Your Coaching Skills with Tom Henschel (episode 190) The Way to Stop Rescuing People From Their Problems, with Michael Bungay Stanier (episode 284) Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic.