313: Clare A. revisits

🔸 Rose petals. Being a 12 year old with a baby. 🔹 Parts: 12 yo, neeeds time off and rose water. Baby, grey, too tightly wrapped, suffocating. 🎓 What I'd like to do differently: Well im glad I asked! (In that first minute when I could have not). It’s uncomfortable, often for me, cuz I don’t want to nag. But I'm getting over that; it’s too important not to do it, so it's better to say it with the wrong words than not at all. After rehoming baby, I was in a “quit while we’re ahead" mindset. Even though we were just 30 mins in, I had already been through that emotional journey that normally signal “all done!” So I was a bit befuddled re: the 12 year old. And my “gonna check in?” spiel is still grade D. I know there are 10 different ways I could do it “right” but when I try them on, none feel right. Should I go back to not bothering? Better than confusing? It's tough! Imagine, you've just connected to this inner baby for the first time in your life, and now I'm gonna tell you that you oughta keep doing it?? I know how that would sound to my parts! Maybe I’ll never stick the landing. Maybe I'm ok with that. ----- 🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form 😀Come chat with us: Discord 🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here: Itunes YouTube How to leave a review - iPhone 👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionnaire