32. How Growing Up in Dysfunction Effects Our Ability to Have Healthy Relationships & How to Heal Attachment Wounds

Have you rolled your eyes at the thought of doing inner child work, or avoided looking at your childhood trauma even though you know you’ve been through some sh*t?Studies have shown the consequences that childhood trauma has on our brain structure as well as our attachment abilities in adulthood. Today, Tammy Vincent and I sit down and dive into how a traumatic childhood has shaped both of us, our 12-step work in an Adult Child of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families (ACA) program, and how we finally learned to reparent our inner parts so that we could be able to experience healthy relationships.In this episode, you’ll discover:- The life experience that Tammy had which was the catalyst for her to dive into her generational trauma work- What being a people-pleaser ACTUALLY means, and how to shift away from it- Our top tips for women who are starting to acknowledge the depth of their trauma so you can move through it with grace▶️ Tune in for a vulnerable conversation about trauma and how to take back control of the impacts it has on your life and ability to securely attach in relationships.MENTIONED:- Surviving Alcoholic Parents: A Teens Guide to Thriving in a World of Chaos by Tammy Vincent: https://www.tammyvincent.com/shop/p/surviving-alcoholic-parents- Tammy’s website: http://www.tammyvincent.com , use code PODCAST for discounted 8-week course- Relationship Reset Guide: https://www.brewolta.com/want-real-loveRESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:🌻 ⁠Schedule your free Intro Session: https://tinyurl.com/freeintroseshpod❤️ For more resources on healing from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so you can securely attach + experience healthy love: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.brewolta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠🫶🏻 Trust Yourself More Than His Potential (3 Simple Practices To Guarantee You Don't Go Back): https://tinyurl.com/trustyourselfmore-pod 🫶🏻 Get the free 3 WAYS TO RECOGNIZE LOVE BOMBING GUIDE to spot love bombing and walk away from the red flags early: https://tinyurl.com/lovebombguide-htwshownotes🫶🏻 ⁠Get the free RELATIONSHIP RESET GUIDE⁠: https://tinyurl.com/rrg-htwshownotesLearn how to communicate your feelings (without feeling guilty)Navigate triggering moments without shutting downFeel secure on your own so you aren’t jumping into the wrong relationshipExpand your capacity to hold next-level love while remaining true to you🫶🏻 FIND YOURSELF AGAIN Self-guided course to help you rediscover your needs and identity after years of focusing on others firsthttps://tinyurl.com/fya-htwshownotes (Use PODCAST10 at checkout for 10% off)In this gripping podcast, listeners explore the complex dynamics of toxic relationships, unpacking themes like narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, cognitive dissonance, and emotional manipulation, while delving into how empathy, attachment styles, and people pleasing behaviors contribute to codependency, trauma bonding, and emotional abuse. The host and guests share real stories of betrayal, guilt, and heartbreak—all while guiding survivors through letting go of an ex, identifying red flags, reclaiming self worth and confidence, establishing boundaries, and rebuilding emotional safety after love bombing, manipulation, self doubt, and deep-rooted trauma.