32. How to actually heal perfectionism (it’s not what you think)

Most people think the cure for perfectionism is… well… brushing it under the carpet. Why fix something that took you to where you are in life and business? Unfortunately perfectionism is one of the most common traits in high achievers and one of the most common contributing factors when it comes to high achiever burnout.The more you scale your business, the harder your perfectionistic tendencies will kick in, and the easier and more likely you’ll burnout and be stuck in the same spot for months or even years.In this episode, we break down the two most effective evidence-based approaches to healing perfectionism at the root. You'll learn why perfectionism is a nervous system response, rather than an innate personality trait, and how adults who were insecurely attached in childhood can develop secure attachment and rewire those patterns for good.We cover the psychology behind Gabor Maté's 4A framework (authenticity, agency, anger, and acceptance), the research on earned secure attachment from Mary Main, and why Bessel van der Kolk's body-based trauma work is essential, because cognitive insight alone won't get you there.If you're a high achiever who's exhausted, chronically on guard, or can't seem to turn it off no matter how much you accomplish, this is the episode you needed years ago.14 Day inerOS Reset https://deannawrose.com/osresetTake the Performance Archetype Quiz https://shorturl.at/aHm4QConnect on Social https://instagram.com/dr.deannawrose/How I support high performers https://deannawrose.com/programs Get email updates https://deannawrose.com/connect#newsletterKeywords: how to heal perfectionism, perfectionism and trauma, earned secure attachment, nervous system healing, Gabor Mate 4A framework, somatic healing, window of tolerance, high achiever burnout, founder burnout, body keeps the score, attachment style adults