323. What It Means to Hold Boundaries, Even When We're Disappointing Others

A big part of our growth is knowing our limitations. Sounds ironic, I know. But setting boundaries is one of the areas we often struggle with most, for one simple reason: we hate disappointing others. Truth is, we're not always going to have the energy or capacity for everyone who wants access to us all the time. And the more we deplete our energy trying to be everything to everyone, the more we lose small pieces of ourselves. But knowing and communicating your personal limitations not only makes life easier on you, it will also benefit everyone around you. Because believe it or not, people are more understanding than you think. Here, I'm teaching how to confidently start to hold boundaries and prioritize yourself without the guilt and shame of letting others down. Everybody wins, especially you.   In this episode, we're talking about:   Why we hurt so much when we can't hold others' pain The damage to everyone caused by stretching beyond our limitations Why identifying and admitting our limitations is awkward Why boundaries sometimes inhibit us from desiring massive success Why so many business owners and entrepreneurs struggle with boundaries How balance is about overall average, rather than always level all the time How boundaries are all about relationships How to communicate our boundaries with someone we've lost touch with How to avoid feeling guilty about past mistakes Why we tend to underestimate the compassion and patience of others 3 steps if you struggle with setting boundaries How to prioritize your to-do list into 3 key subcategories (spoiler: you won't even bother with category 3 and it'll feel so good!)   Everytime I talk about boundaries on Room to Grow™ it gets a ton of reaction from listeners. So let's dive in again and let me know what you think! Send me a DM or email me anytime (contacts below). CONNECT WITH EMILY Book a private coaching call with Emily to work together. Your FREE 15-page foundational guide Where Do We Begin. Jump on the waitlist for Becoming YOU, my 6 week women's group coaching program Men's group coaching program coming in November 2022 – waitlist here. Instagram: @emilygoughcoach [email protected]     Emily Gough Coaching Room to Grow Podcast   Podcast Producer: Adam Liefl   REFERENCES:    Episode 316 | Regret Is Shame Disguised As Maturity   Episode 305 | Re-Thinking Boundaries & Becoming An Energetic Match For Your Desires   Episode 149 | The Fear Of Success Is Real: Everything Has A Price   Episode 195 | The Crushing Fears Of Both Failure & Success   Episode 277 | Are You Waiting Around To Be Chosen? (Standards, Boundaries & Expectations)   Episode 108 | How To Set Boundaries: The Key To Healthy Relationships   Episode 220 | Recognizing What Self-Betrayal Looks Like   Book: Atomic Habits by James Clear