# 33 - Why Is Everything a Meeting? AuDHD, Workplace Culture, and Breaking the “We’ve Always Done It This Way” Cycle

Send us Fan MailIn this episode of Quietly Autistic at Last, Dr. Allison Sucamele explores a question so many people think but rarely say out loud: why is everything a meeting?Through a psychological lens, this episode unpacks how neurotypical systems rely on meetings for connection, visibility, and structure, and why those same environments can feel overwhelming, draining, and inequitable for autistic, ADHD, and AuDHD individuals. From cognitive overload and masking to the hidden energy cost before, during, and after meetings, this conversation validates an experience many quietly endure.You’ll also explore the deeper psychology behind “we’ve always done it this way,” including cognitive ease, groupthink, and status quo bias, and how these patterns keep inefficient systems in place.This episode offers not only insight, but gentle, realistic shifts toward more inclusive communication, reminding you that struggling in these environments is not a personal failure, it’s information about the system itself.If you’ve ever felt drained before the day even begins, or wondered why something so “normal” feels so difficult, this episode is for you.Support & Resource GuideAutism ResourcesAutistic Self Advocacy NetworkResources created by and for autistic individuals, focusing on self-advocacy, rights, and community.Autism SocietyOffers education, local support networks, and resource referrals.Autism SpeaksProvides toolkits and information, though perspectives on this organization may vary within the autistic community.ADHD ResourcesCHADDEvidence-based education, support groups, and tools for managing ADHD.ADDitude MagazineArticles, webinars, and practical strategies for ADHD across the lifespan.AuDHD & Neurodivergent-Affirming ResourcesNeuroClasticA platform centering autistic voices, including lived experiences of overlapping identities like AuDHD.The Neurodivergent CollectiveEducation, advocacy, and affirming resources for multiple neurotypes.Mental Health & Crisis Support988 Suicide & Crisis LifelineCall or text 988 (U.S.) for free, confidential support 24/7. You can also chat via 988lifeline.org.If you're outside the U.S., consider looking up local crisis lines in your country.Gentle ReminderThese resources are here to support, not define you. Every autistic, ADHD, and AuDHD experience is different. Take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and trust your own understanding of yourself.