This is optimal leaving daily how to get over your mistakes in five not particularly easy steps by Sarah Von bargain of yes and yes Dot org, and I'm Justin Malik the guy who reads articles book excerpts sometimes and more to you every day including holidays It's always with permission from the authors or websites We couldn't do that without them or you so thank you to them and to you for being here And I'll get right to our post today and start optimizing your life How to get over your mistakes in five not particularly easy steps by Sarah Von bargain of yes and yes dot org Dear Sarah, so just wondering how do you deal when you make a mistake or do something you regret does this ever happen to you? I can't figure out if I'm just making more mistakes lately or if I'm having a harder time forgiving myself for them Before I attempt to answer our friends very valid question Please allow me to share some of my most epic mistakes Number one putting off getting the breaks on my scooter fixed resulting in an accident a whole lot of road rash and four stitches in my chin Number two allowing a five-year relationship to go on for about two years too long Number three not proofing $1,300 worth of product before I send it to the printer Number four not tying down a mattress I was hauling in the back of a pickup it blew out of the back in the middle of the Lake Street bridge during rush hour And number five frequently wearing red fleece overalls in high school Yes, I'd like to say that I've learned from these mistakes But I've got drop crotch print pants in my online shopping cart as I typed this so maybe I've yet to grasp the meaning behind that last one I'm hardly the person who doesn't make mistakes However, I do my best not to get hung up on them. Here are a few things that work for me How to get over your mistakes in five not particularly easy steps step one be honest about what actually caused these mistakes I didn't get my breaks fixed because I'm a procrastinator I didn't end the relationship because I was afraid to hurt his feelings I didn't tie down that mattress because I can be shockingly lazy. I myself am the common denominator in all of these screw-ups Sounds rather depressing doesn't it?
However, there is something oddly comforting about acknowledging that about most of these mistakes With a bit of effort and emotional maturity, I could have avoided them. These things were not beyond my control They were not an act of God. They were my own doing and thus it is totally within my power to avoid them in the future If you're the source of hardships in your life, you're also the source of the solutions Step two think about how you can prevent this from happening again There'll always be unexpected weather You can't really control how your boyfriend reacts to your concerns or how other people view the sartorial merits of red fleece overalls But you can control yourself and as we just discussed you might be the common denominator in a lot of those mistakes You can prevent typos by double proofreading asking a friend to proofread not writing after you've had three lattes Not that I would know anything about that you can prevent regrettable romantic scenarios by knowing and liking yourself before you start dating someone Figuring out what you're looking for not dating people who don't fit what you're looking for and learning how to fight fair If you're really painfully honest with yourself You probably know how to prevent these lip-ups from happening You just need to commit to putting those important tough decisions into play Step three view the results of your mistakes from an objective standpoint Of course, we've all made mistakes and some of them have had major consequences I'm looking at you scooter related chin scar, but by and large if you're hearing this blog That means you have access to the Internet You're not dead and you have the physical capacity to use a computer or phone any of access to the Internet You're already better off than 95% of the world's inhabitants There are of course mistakes that are very hard to recover from but you know what? I bet we all know people who have pulled themselves out of abusive relationships crippling debt serious health issues unwise investments bad mortgages Education programs they hated and they all live to tell about it and make better decisions the second time around as morbid as it sounds The gig's not up till you're in the ground one mistake does not need to be yet another You don't need to be perfect.
You just need to be slightly smarter than last time Step four think about how you can correct your mistakes How can you make up for your screw-ups? I can't go back in time and convince my 27-year-old self that she should take her scooter to a mechanic But if I run into that ex-boyfriend and the times right I could say I'm sorry about how things ended between us I should have had the guts to be honest with you and be more open about my feelings You deserve better than that Sometimes that door is closed and your best bet is to be a better person from here on out But if an apology redo or even a check could make things right and make you feel better and make it happen And step five realize that regret is deeply deeply useless There's nothing wrong with acknowledging that maybe if you could do it again You wouldn't incur 75,000 dollars worth of debt for an MA and underwater basket weaving But there's a difference between shrugging and saying ah well, you live you learn and tormenting yourself every time you make a loan payment Regretting your life's choices serves no one it's completely pointless and as all those Pinterest images wisely state don't look back You're not going that way and if you're still hung up on past mistakes use the old Grand Canyon trick Picture that the Grand Canyon is your life your past present and future Start envisioning the various parts of your life within the canyon over there is the day you were born your third grade choir performance Your job is a babysitter picture. You're present. There's your apartment your friends your mom the book you're reading right now Picture your future.
There's your next vacation the love of your life your future children the top chef finale Picture the enormous Grand Canyon and drop your worry into it Whatever you're worrying about your cranky boss your dating life a salty comment from a friend You'll be barely visible. See how tiny it looks suddenly your problem will seem much much smaller in comparison to the grand course of your huge rich Long life You just listen to the post titled how to get over your mistakes in five not particularly easy steps by Sarah Von bargain of yes And yes, I'll be right back with my commentary. I'm constantly thinking about how to optimize my health What supplements to take hours of sleep what my diet should focus on superpower finally takes the guessing out of it one simple lab test covers over 100 biomarkers and their app gives you a complete picture of your heart liver hormones Metabolism even environmental toxins plus it used to cost $499 right now It's just one hundred ninety nine dollars and head to superpower.com and use code old at checkout for an additional twenty dollars off your membership They get Sarah. I think it's been Franklin that would review what he did every day basically writing down what he did well And what he could have done better that day and for the things he could have done better or bad habits He would pick one and then work on it for a week and then change it up the next week That might be overkill but like Sarah said we are the source of the solutions even just a different perspective on those mistakes could make a big difference Yes, we might be responsible, but we don't have to be hard on ourselves for it No one's perfect.
We're all gonna make mistakes. I'm sure we can both think of hundreds of mistakes We've each had but instead of beating ourselves up about it. What comes from it. That's what's the most important There's a good quote in there.
She said you don't need to be perfect. You just need to be slightly smarter than last time That's something I try to remind myself of with this podcast just trying to be a little bit better each day That's what I hope for you too being here with me and listening hopefully ten or so minutes a day can add up So that we're even just a tiny bit better than yesterday. I do think it's working for me after all these years I'm sure it is for you too So with that, thank you for being here every day have a great rest of your day and I'll see you tomorrow where you're optimal life. Oh wait