34. A Real Mum’s Story: Boundaries That Work, with Tess Bonde

In this special episode, Nina chats with Tess, a mum-of-two and long-time listener, who shares how she used the calm boundary script from Episode 8 in a moment when her daughter was yelling at her. It’s a real story about emotional boundaries, staying steady under pressure, and what happens when you choose connection over control - even when it’s hard. You’ll Learn:How to use calm boundaries when kids are rude, yelling or dishonestThe “I won’t let you X, but you can Y” structure in actionWhy pausing (see Episode 3) can shift the whole energy in your homeHow calm boundaries can open space for repair, respect, and deeper understandingWhy This Episode MattersTess’s story reminds us that calm boundaries do work - even when kids push hard. This isn’t a polished expert take - it’s one mum showing up with love, courage, and the skills she’s learned along the way. It’s a raw and real example of parenting under pressure - and a beautiful reminder that connection often comes after a boundary is held kindly but firmly. One Small ShiftNext time your child is rude, yelling, or being dishonest, try:“I won’t let you speak to me that way. I’m happy to talk when we’re both calm.”Then pause. Breathe. Hold the boundary with calm confidence — and trust that connection often follows. And just as important: be kind to yourself.As Tess shared, speak to yourself the way you’d speak to a friend or acquaintance. Progress doesn’t come from perfection — it comes from compassion and practice. Take the Next StepIf emotional blow‑ups, backchat, or lying are becoming frequent in your home - and you want support turning them into moments of calmness and repair - book a free 20‑minute clarity call. I’ll help you identify what’s really going on and give you 1–2 simple, effective tools to try straight away.Links and Resources Recommended episodes of Your Calm Parenting Path  Episode 3. Is This the Most Underrated Parenting Tool to Help You Stay Calm?Episode 8. What’s the Secret to Calm, Clear Boundaries?Episode 11. Tired of Doing It All? What Needs to Change? With Eva RadoBook a free 20-minute Clarity Call here.Let’s ConnectFollow Nina on InstagramWebsite: mindfulparentinglifestyle.com.auEmail: [email protected] About the HostsNina Visic is a mindful parenting coach, podcast host, and mum of three based in WA. She supports parents to move from yelling and reactivity to calm, confident connection. Her work blends practical tools with deep compassion — because parenting isn’t about perfection, it’s about presence.In this episode, Nina chats with Tess - a long-time listener and past client - who brings the boundary tools to life in the middle of a real parenting moment. It’s raw, real, and a powerful reminder that calm parenting is possible, even when emotions are big.