34. How to stop raising people pleasers

All people pleasers were once parent pleasers. People pleasing is something we all do to some extent. Why? Or else no one would want to be around us. The constant balance we are all faced with having to strike, is when to cooperate with others and do what the world wants of us - and when to honor our own limits, wants and desires. As Jung famously said; "The first half of a human's life is spent living in accordance with what others want from us. The second half of a human's life is spent honoring what we want for ourself"It can be difficult to watch our child trying to fit in, pleasing friends who aren't worthy of their attention and doing things that are not in line with their moral compass, in order to be liked.  DON'T DO IT! We feel like saying. But when we do - we don't get through. Because kids don't do what we say - they ultimately come to do as we do. This episode delves into the two conflicting needs we all have; For connection - and for authenticity. How do we get our child to cooperate in ways that doesn't squash their authenticity? How do we work on our own stuff while helping our kids become grounded in themselves?How do we raise kids who respect themselves enough to not self-abandon in order to meet their own needs for love and connection? Have a listen on your next walk or drive - and share with a friend you know would like to hear these words To get weekly tips and parenting inspiration sent straight to your inbox - head over to www.louise-brooks.com to sign up for my weekly newsletter You can follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/parentingsuccesscoaching/And onFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/