34. Let's Be Friends

cw: PTSD mention On this week’s episode, Chatrice and Luis discuss the ultimate relationship…friendship! Grab your friends and listen to this episode, Courting Cuties. For their weekly check in Chatrice awaits her contractor and Luis has trouble remembering the weekends (in general). In a Courting in Color first, our hosts quote an old white man. Welcome to the Court, Aristotle! Time Stamps: 0:20 - Welcome 0:34 - Hosts’ Weekly Check-In 0:54 - CW: PTSD 8:02 - What is one adult thing our hosts have done this week? 8:18 - Luis asks, why do we spend so much time in the kitchen? 11:29 - Daunte Wright’s murder 13:13 - Army Lt. Caron Nazario being pepper-sprayed 16:16 - Prison Culture’s questions to ask when outraged about injustice - Tweet: https://twitter.com/CriticalRace/status/1382125975207616513?s=20 17:04 Shout Out for the Culture - Fabulous Lives of Bollywood Wives 18:10 - Colorism in Fabulous Lives of Bollywood 21:13 - Topic of the Week: Friendship 21:18 - Article: What If Friendship, Not Marriage, Was at the Center of Life? 22:22 - Aristotle’s musings on Friendship 23:06 - Accidental Friendship - Utility 23:24 - Accidnetal Friendship - Pleasure 23:53 - Intentional Friendship - Perfect - mutual appreciation of the virtues the other person holds 24:39 - Perfect friendship further explained 25:26 - Hosts explain their thoughts on friendship concepts of Aristotle 31:33 - You can’t call someone your friend until you have spent 80 hours 32:02 - Value of salt in salt Christian scripture 34:24 - Value of salt in Ancient Greece (source: GreekBoston.com) 37:42 - What is the 2021 version of salt? What is some thing you share only with a very close/close friend? 38:23 - What if Nicki Minaj was singing about friends and salt in “Bottoms Up”? 39:06 - Giving your cell phone number, is that a close sign of friendship? 39:30 - Close friends on Instagram is the new MySpace top 8 40:33 - We ask the Courting Cuties: what qualities do you look for in a friend or a friendship? 41:23 - Hosts and what they look for in friends 44:06 - Better discernment of friends than relationships/baes 45:08 - Team #NoNewFriends 49:09 - What is the process of making friends? 52:28 - In the work environment, everyone gets a first coffee date. 57:51 - Identity politics in friendship 58:03 - What people expect out of certain people and certain bodies, cultural understandings of black women as mammys and fat friends as the loveable, funny friend 59:15 - The concept of visiting people 1:00:10 - Last question: What has been Chatrice and Luis’ favorite moments in their friendship? 1:09:09 - Wrap Up: listen to Courting in Color’s old episodes, next season in a couple of months! Article: What if Friendship, Not Marriage, Was at the Center of Life? by Rhaina Cohen - https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2020/10/people-who-prioritize-friendship-over-romance/616779/ Article: Aristotle’s Philosophy of Friendship Still Matters Today by Zat Rana - https://humanparts.medium.com/aristotles-timeless-advice-on-what-real-friendship-is-and-why-it-matters-c0878418343f Nicomachean Ethics by Aristole translated by W.D. Ross - http://classics.mit.edu/Aristotle/nicomachaen.8.viii.html Website: courtingincolor.com / Email: [email protected] / Instagram: @CourtNColor Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review!