34. Should I Stay Small to Make People Comfortable? with Alissa Alter

 Alissa Alter and I get into body image, gaining weight during pregnancy and what society has to say about it.  As a Motherhood Advocate and Women's Health Expert she is committed to cracking open the taboo topics of pregnancy and postpartum. She joins us in today’s episode to talk about some of these issues. We kick off the show by learning about her and her experience of being  a blond-haired, blue-eyed Jewish woman as Alissa acknowledges that she does not meet most people’s expectations of what a Jewish person "should" look like. We talk about the challenges she has had having her identity constantly called into question. We then discuss pregnancy, hearing about Alissa’s journey, and what she learned during this time. Having been a performer for most of her life, she was used to her body being in the public domain, but what she experienced while she was pregnant surprised her more than she expected. After this, Alissa opens up about outgrowing her first marriage, ending her people-pleasing habit, and how she has learned to set boundaries. Our email this week (59:49) is about how to keep your mascara from smudging under your eye. This is a common issue, and there are some simple solutions. Call Outs from the Episode: Alissa's Book - Unstuck: From Understudy To The Study Of Your UndercarriageAlissa Alter on InstagramEpisode 13 with Anna UptonMagnet TheaterLizzoErin's Faces Aloe Setting PowderErin's Faces Gentle Milk CleanserErin’s Faces Matcha MascaraTweetables: “When we don’t talk about things, we are all left suffering in silence. But when we talk about it and give a voice to these experiences, we realize that we’re not alone and we can support each other.” — Alissa Alter [0:12:12]“There are people in your life who really benefit from you not having boundaries. So, when you set them, and what you’re really saying is, ‘I have to take care of myself right now,’ for them, it’s a slap in the face and you don’t care about them. ” — Alissa Alter [0:22:12]“If you are happily married, don’t get divorced. But if you are miserable, get out of there.” — Alissa Alter [0:37:34]“I don’t think I’ll ever consider myself not a performer. But the problem for me was that I could no longer tolerate handing over my power.” — Alissa Alter [0:40:50]Come have fun with us!Our private Facebook Group: Erin’s Faces Green Beauty GatheringInstagram: @erinsfacesEmail: [email protected] Website: erinsfaces.com