34: Shy Kids Don't Get Sweets

Most people don't have an opportunity problem.They have an asking problem.They want the client.They want the introduction.They want the date.They want the opportunity.They want the promotion.But they never actually ask for it.In this episode of Coffee With Dan, Dan Meredith and Shaun Bartle dive into one of Dan's favourite sayings:Shy kids don't get sweets.And when you look back over almost any success story, business or personal, there's usually one thing in common.Somebody was willing to put themselves out there.Send the message.Make the call.Ask the question.Pitch themselves.Take the shot.Dan shares stories from his corporate career, building his businesses, landing opportunities he had absolutely no business getting, and how some of the biggest breakthroughs in his life came from simply being cheeky enough to ask.They also discuss:Why most people talk themselves out of opportunities before they even tryThe surprising downside of being too politeWhy rejection is nowhere near as scary as people thinkHow confidence is built through action, not waitingThe role other people have played in accelerating successWhy asking for help is harder than helping othersThe power of putting yourself in the roomWhy the biggest opportunities often come through relationshipsPlus Dan shares the story of asking 10 influential friends for help with a launch and getting 10 yeses.Not because he was special.Not because he was lucky.Because he finally asked.If you've been sitting on an idea...Waiting to send a message...Thinking about reaching out to someone...Or talking yourself out of doing something because it feels uncomfortable...This episode is your reminder.The answer is always no until you ask.Follow Dan MeredithInstagram: @therealdanmeredithFollow Shaun BartleInstagram: @shaunbartleContact The [email protected]:00 – Why men need more compliments01:30 – Introducing "Shy Kids Don't Get Sweets"03:00 – Dan's first sales job and learning confidence05:30 – Why bold people often get bigger opportunities08:00 – Dating, confidence and putting yourself out there11:00 – Landing huge corporate clients by simply asking14:00 – Why asking for help feels so uncomfortable17:00 – The launch story: 10 asks, 10 yeses20:00 – The opportunities you're talking yourself out of23:00 – Why nobody is coming to rescue you25:30 – The power of making the first move28:00 – Career stories that started with one bold ask31:00 – The rejection method and chasing no's35:00 – Why rejection isn't actually that bad38:00 – Getting over the fear of putting yourself forward41:00 – Why action beats overthinking every time44:00 – The importance of having people around you who push you47:00 – Sales, confidence and creating opportunities49:00 – Final thoughts: ask for the thing