#341 Transcripts episode 7 Do the Shit Your love

Segment 7 – Do the Shit That You Love “I believe the singular reason that I have been financially successful is cause I don’t care about financial success. Like, find your process. Find your thing. Live within your means. This goes back to a lot of the things that I’m thinking about. When people do things for other people’s affirmation it makes them incredibly emotionally vulnerable. We’re in a very special time here. Find the thing that makes you happy doing it. Not because of any other part. And so if you can find something you love, when shit hits the fan you’re not going to be looking for the next trend. You’re going to be chilling here for the next two, three, four years waiting for it to flip back up. That’s a beautiful feeling. It’s fun to be in the shit when it’s the shit you like being in.” -Gary Vee (Theme music plays, pencil scratching in the background)  in a whispered tone P: Transcripts D:Mr. Gary Vee F:Dude, that’s pretty profound D:You know, so, he brought up a lot of…OK. He brought up a lot of things that people need to do. You know one…something my grandfather always told us, uh, you know, he said ‘Find what you love doing and people will pay you to do it.’ So, it’s true. And he’s saying ‘Find what you love.’ Actually his exact words were ‘Find the shit that you love.’ So, now, he also mentioned if you’re doing things for other people’s approval, my words, well, why are you doing it? Cause you’re just making yourself vulnerable to…cause here’s the thing: (sighs) when it comes to people’s approval, you don’t need anyone’s  approval but your’s.  F:That’s taken many years for me to learn that for myself.  D:Um, quick story, cause I like telling stories.  F:Everybody on the carpet. Story time. D: (laughs) Um, so, 21, almos…almost 22 years ago, um, I married a young lady. Still married to her, obviously. And, um, went and got married and we eloped. Then we went to go see my parents.  F:How did that go over? Or is that part of the story? D:Oh it’s coming… F:Sorry. I didn’t mean to get ahead (laughs) D:You’re like ‘Wait a second’ F:Well you kinda looked at me like… D:Yeah…well…so we went to go see my parents and, you know, walked in the house and Shannon came with me, and my parents were…long story short: my parents, I’ll, I’ll backtrack a little before we got married. My parents received a letter from, I guess, my step-grandma. Yes…Shannon’s, Shannon’s step-grandma, cause her grandfather remarried. Um, and my step grandmother in law, this is while we were dating, wrote a letter to them saying how bad of a person that my mother…future mother in law…was and then pretty much closes it out in a, in a sense of saying ‘…and Shannon is gonna be just like her.’ F:I’m sure that created a lot of stereotypes for your parents. D:There was a rift in the family. Me…and my parents were like ‘You’re not marrying her.’  F:Oh, really? D:Yes. I was told that I’m not going to marry her.  F:They told you that you couldn’t do something (laughs)  D: (laughs) And you know me. Don’t tell me I can’t do something, right? So, um, fast forward, um, actually, so we broke it off, actually  we, we broke it off for a, for a year and so I could try and figure out how to make everybody happy. And you know what? You can’t make everybody happy. It’s impossible. Nothing can happen. So, I go in and uh, she’s down in Florida and I’m up in Georgia, and then I’m like ‘This is stupid’ and I call her up and I’m like ‘Hey. You love me?’ She goes ‘Yeah’ ‘Well, I love you too. Let’s get married.’ She’s like ‘OK’ I literally left… F:Wait, wait, wait. That’s how you proposed? D:No I proposed…so I proposed before. F:Oh, so there was a, OK   D:So fast forward there…There was a proposal before. We broke it off. She gave me the ring back.  Literally, I got the ring back.  F:Gotcha D:Everything, and it was like that for a year, and, and then, you know, a year goes by and I’m like ‘This is Stupid.’ You know, I’m gonna, you know