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EPISODE · Jun 29, 2026 · 27 MIN

344: How Often Should We Be Dating Our Spouse?

from HERself · host Abby and Amy

When it comes to dating your spouse, how often should you actually be going on dates? We started asking ourselves that question and quickly realized the answer depends on your relationship, your season of life, and what helps you feel connected. We share how our own approaches to dating have evolved over the years, from weekly nights out to low effort basement dates and small moments of connection throughout the week. We also dive into the research on dating your spouse, debate what actually counts as a date, and talk about why regular check-ins matter more than following someone else's rules.Key Topics Covered:The research behind dating your spouse, including the "gold standard" of weekly dates and the 2/2/2 method.Why Amy and Drew and Abby and Colin have completely different dating styles, and how their needs have evolved as their kids and schedules have changed.The debate over whether group dates count as dates and why couples may have different definitions of quality time.How to have honest conversations with your partner about feeling connected, sharing the mental load, and getting on the same page.Why meaningful connection can happen in everyday moments and does not always require elaborate plans or expensive nights out.LINKS AND RESOURCES:FORAGE KITCHEN: Check out your nearest locationAMAZON STOREFRONT: https://amzlink.to/az0BrkLl5pX9u Let’s connect!HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastHERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

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When it comes to dating your spouse, how often should you actually be going on dates? We started asking ourselves that question and quickly realized the answer depends on your relationship, your season of life, and what helps you feel connected. We share how our own approaches to dating have evolved over the years, from weekly nights out to low effort basement dates and small moments of connection throughout the week. We also dive into the research on dating your spouse, debate what actually ...

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