348: How Far Are You Willing to Go to Love Yourself w/ Jessi Kneeland

Welcome back to this episode of The Heartbeat with the incredible Jessi Kneeland who is a writer, iPEC certified life coach, clinical sexologist, TEDx speaker, and all around awesome human. Today we discuss topics such as body image, worthiness, conscious relationships, and the biggie for all of us - feeling enough. "I think it was this massive feeling of like, once I did that - I did this scary thing that I was not sure at all was the right thing to do - and on the other side of it I realized 'I can trust my intuition, and in fact I MUST always, again, forever trust my intuition.' Cause it was right, and everyone else was wrong, and I'm the only person who can be an expert on me." "People would be like, 'damn, how did you get your abs so flat?', you know, or 'I want my butt like that' or whatever, and I loved that. I felt so successful because we've been given this model of what success looks like for women, and it's to be as perfect and hot as possible, and so I felt successful. And what was really really hard as I made this shift, was to realize that I needed to give up the feeling of worth and success in order to do the deeper work of feeling worthy as a person." "'No wonder I'm anxious all the time, no wonder my shoulders and neck are all bound up', you know? A lot of it was wanting the status, and wanting to look like I felt like I was supposed to look, wanting to look more perfect. And a lot of it too, I think on an unconscious level, was keeping me from feeling all the stuff that came out when I had to feel it. Because it was a lot of stuff that came out when I learned to breathe, when I learned to feel. That was not easy and there was a lot there. It was a lot of backlogged stuff around trauma." Find Jessi on her IG @jessikneeland & at jessikneeland.com