35. Self-care isn't selfish. Listener Q&A and Getting Kids on Board with Boundaries

 Are you operating from empty? Do you think it is selfish to dedicate TIME to replenish YOU?             Click here to read Val's blog post, "Depleted? Mom, It's not selfish to replenish."     The first half of this episode is a vulnerable topic for Val as it includes her road back to health and she reminds moms that when you are depleted, it often leads to defeated. It is not selfish to take care of yourself! In fact, neglecting YOU is harmful to your family. We cannot replenish others when we are depleted. We moms often neglect ourselves emotionally, spiritually, and physically. Let's talk about the road back to healthy.Then the second half of this episode is a listener Q&A where we  focus on the four key elements of communicating boundaries to kids effectively and getting them on board with taking the necessary growth steps to increase their freedoms.1. Empathy – see it from their perspective.  Have compassion on their PERCEPTION of what’s going on and VERBALIZE your empathy.  2. Humility - even parents need humility and need to give mutual respect 3. Consistent and Clear boundaries and expectations - are the lines constantly changing or difficult for your child to identify? 4. Visionary Standard - avoid  negative labels, your words should point them toward who they are capable of becoming * you believe they are more than their current  behavior and weaknesses.Boundaries increase with level of *Responsibility *Wisdom *Honesty "As they display these characteristics in an area, that they are faithful with the amount of freedom they’re at, then you can begin considering increasing the freedom.  COMMUNICATE all of this to them all along the way, so they understand that their freedom is in direct proportion to their level of *Responsibility *Wisdom and *Honesty""When our kids have constant access to social media, it means that Peers & Strangers are given an influencing-role & constant access to our kids’ heart & mind.   Intentional parents need to have *reoccurring conversation *family agreemenSend Val your encouragement and thoughts about the show.Support the showVisit Val's website: PracticallySpeakingMOM.comJoin Val's Facebook Group Intentional Mom, Strong FamilyFollow Val on Instagram and her Facebook Public Page Practically Speaking MOMWe're on a mission to strengthen families.Want to help cover some of the costs of the show? click here. A few dollars a month would help so much!Here's some other ways to give:Cash App: $valPSMPaypal: [email protected] with a credit card HEREAll donations will be used for the ministry. Gifts are not tax deductible. THANK YOU for partnering in this ministry to strengthen families and encourage intentional moms."May the Words of my mouth and the medit...