352. Does who you are and what you want... match?

I heard a Jim Rohn video on YouTube this week where he said You don’t get in life what you want, you get in life what you are.    I had to really think about that statement because it sounded a little off to me but once you think about it a minute it’s totally true.  I may WANT to be healthy but if I consistently eat foods that are unhealthy, then I am going to be unhealthy.   I may want to be super fit but if I never exercise I’m not going to be super fit.  I may WANT to be financially secure but if I don’t plan for the future and save for the future, I will not be financially secure.  And we have good intentions. We will tell ourselves this is the year I get healthy. Or this is the year I’m going to get my spending under control. Or whatever it is you want. But then we turn around and do the opposite.  We make life hard because we let ourselves down every time we turn around. We say things like… I’m going to the gym tomorrow. And you don’t go  I’m only drinking two days this week and you drink 5 days.  Im going to start saving 10% of my income for my future but you never end up doing it.  These may seem subtle but it’s death by a thousand cuts all those little lies we tell ourselves add up.   What you tell yourself matters. What you say to yourself MATTERS. The promises you make to yourself matter as much as a promise you make to someone else. Honestly it’s better to be honest with yourself than say something you know you don’t mean.  I used to say Im not going to eat one bite of sugar at this party or Im eating nothing tonight because I ate so bad this morning.  At the time I felt like it was true but when it came time and I was at the party or it was dinner time and I was hungry, I disregarded what I had said earlier and ate anyway or ate the sugar and more of it than I probably would have.  I acted like it was no big deal but I realized that I was lying to myself and part of the reason was because I was being unreasonable. I know now if Im going to trust myself, I have to be reasonable Because If I make a promise to myself, Im gonna keep it.  No use in being miserable while I do it.