352. The Subtle Ways Self-Abandonment Sneaks Up on Us

Every time we betray our true self in order to please someone else, we abandon a small part of us. Every time we say "yes" when we really mean "no," or ignore our own needs, or cling to an unhealthy relationship for fear of hurting their feelings, we give up another small part of our authentic self.  Slowly, those small parts add up to a gaping hole that can irreparably damage our relationships with others and ourselves. So today, we're talking about noticing the signs of self-abandonment and how to confidently balance the healthy compromises (required for relationships to work) while showing up in the world as nothing but your most authentic, genuine self. In this episode, we're talking about: How to effectively compromise, without self-betrayal How people pleasing leads to self-abandonment The importance of setting boundaries Conscious incompetence Building self worth and appreciating yourself The dangerous cycle of people pleasing and self-abandonment The attractiveness of integrity and authenticity   Do you struggle with staying true to yourself? Let me know how this episode inspires you to make changes in your life. DM me on Instagram @emilygoughcoach   CONNECT WITH EMILY Book a private coaching call with Emily to work together. Get your FREE 15-page foundational guide "Where Do We Begin" here Men's Group Coaching – next 8-week program starts Jan 25th, 2023 (join the list) Women's Group Program "Becoming You" – Next program starts Feb 7th, 2023 (join the list) Instagram: @emilygoughcoach Email: [email protected]                              Website: Emily Gough Coaching Podcast: Room to Grow Podcast   REFERENCES Episode 340 | The Hidden Costs Of Losing Yourself In Relationships Episode 277 | Are You Waiting Around To Be Chosen? (Standards, Boundaries & Expectations) Episode 336 | Less About Red Flags In Relationships, More About Compassion & Self-Forgiveness For Wanting To Be Loved Episode 267 | You're Not Needy, You're A Human With Needs Episode 220 | Recognizing What Self-Betrayal Looks Like Episode 302 | Self Love & Loneliness: Learning To Like Yourself Episode 306 | Changing How We Define Emotional Strength & Recognizing Emotions As Data Episode 270 | Cultivating A Deep Sense Of Self Worth   Podcast Producer: Adam Liefl