36: My Spouse & I Just Fought. I Feel Triggered. How Do I Stay Clean?

How do I come out of an argument with my spouse and NOT relapse? For many of the men that I’ve spoken to, they can get really triggered to go to their porn addiction after an argument or a fight with their spouse. It’s super common. Today, I want to talk about why fights or arguments can be so triggering for us to go look at porn - leading to slips and relapses - and how we can better handle the shame, anger, and intense emotions that might come after a fight, so we can stop watching porn.We can not only come out on the other side clean and sober, but heal our relationship with our wife or significant other at the same time. I’ll teach you a 3-letter acronym that gives you a step-by-step process for how to do this. Listen to the episode to learn this 3-step process for staying clean after fights and arguments.So, let’s pretend that you’ve just had a heated argument with your spouse. You both acted bull-headed. You both said things that you probably didn’t mean. And you’re both worked up. Maybe you’re even charged for more conflict if they say one more freaking thing that rubs you the wrong way… Then, the addiction cravings come... Could be for porn, alcohol, food, video games, TV… Whatever it is, your mind wants to soothe or escape your difficult feelings through self-destructive methods. STOP Right there! This is the moment that you need to halt your trajectory that is leading to a relapse. Don’t wait. Don’t let craving turn into planning or deciding to give in to your pornography addiction. You need to step back and process through your feelings with God as your companion. I’m going to give you 3 practical steps to do this, so you can quit porn and improve your relationship.Those steps are S.I.R.To find out what these 3 simple steps are, listen to the episode.BUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLEFREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for PornFREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn CravingsJoin My Email NewsletterIntensive Porn Addiction Recovery ProgramSchedule a Free ConsultationMORE ARTICLESHow to Tell Your Wife About Your Porn Relapse (Without a Fight) Using The 4-Pronged Ownership ApproachThe 4 Root Causes of Porn AddictionHow to Help Someone with a Porn Addiction in 3 Steps8 Rules to Get You 3 Months Sober from PornStop Porn Cravings | 7 Tools to Overcome Fantasizing & Lust HabitsTrauma, Attachment, Shame & Porn AddictionThe Porn Addiction Funnel: How To Break Porn AddictionSupport the showNo More Desire