# 36 - The Inauthenticity Meter: When You Feel What Others Don’t See

Send us Fan MailIn this episode of Quietly Autistic at Last, Dr. Allison Sucamele introduces the concept of the inauthenticity meter, a deeply intuitive, nervous-system-based awareness of emotional incongruence - when words, tone, and energy don’t align. While often dismissed as overthinking or sensitivity, this experience is rooted in pattern recognition, perception, and attunement that many autistic individuals navigate daily. This episode breaks down the psychological and social dynamics behind inauthentic communication, the disconnect between neurotypical social norms and autistic processing, and the emotional toll of sensing what others ignore. We also explore masking, internalized doubt, nervous system responses, and why direct communication often feels safer and more regulating. You’ll walk away with a deeper understanding of your internal signals, along with grounding strategies and reflections to help you support your nervous system, trust your perception, and seek spaces where authenticity is the norm, not the exception. If you’ve ever felt like you were noticing something others couldn’t name, this episode will remind you, you’re not too much, you might just be perceiving more.Follow on Instagram: Quietly Autistic at Last PodcastDisclaimer: Every autistic and AuDHD experience is unique. This episode is for educational and reflective purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care.If you are in the United States and need support, you can call or text 988, the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, for free, confidential help.