36. Unmet Expectations

As women we have a tendency to set expectations for ourselves, our kids, our marriage, our friendships and we feel disappointment when these expectations aren’t met. It’s become a battle within and something we have each struggled with more recently and wanted to share some encouragement.   Anyone hit a milestone birthday and you take a minute to reflect and realize you just aren’t where you wanted to be with your personal goals?   Maybe your career, your health, being married and having children?   Have you set some expectations that aren’t being met because they are actually out of your control, but you can’t let go of that control?   We share with you the two reasons we have recognized for our own unmet expectations and hope they help you.    Our top two reasons for unmet expectations: Lack of communication…even with yourself! If you have a goal, a love language, something you value, tell your spouse, a friend, write it on your mirror to hold yourself accountable.  We know what it’s like to break a promise to yourself time and time again…it’s time to break that cycle. Unrealistic…if you have the bar way too high for your current circumstances, then your expectations of someone, or even yourself are surely not going to be met.     We also believe there’s an issue with having silent expectations for others as it is just unfair to hold anyone to something they don’t know about.  Have you ever taken a moment to write down and make yourself aware of your unmet expectations…what is important to you personally, in your marriage, and other relationships. It’s so freeing when you start to become comfortable communicating exactly what you want and need!    Communicate your expectations with everyone…it will only help you feel more authentic, and will help you feel free from all the internal judgment, guilt, shame and anything that is holding you back.   Book links mentioned in this episode:  “I Guess I Haven't Learned That Yet: Discovering New Ways of Living When the Old Ways Stop Working” “What Did You Expect? (Redesign): Redeeming the Realities of Marriage”   Join our community on Facebook and connect with us on Instagram!  Write an apple review and YOUR review could be read on our next episode!  Hosted by Tori Shirah and Tracy Stine Contact us ➡️ [email protected]