36 | Why I Still Can't Forgive: 8 Hidden Layers of Loss After Betrayal and Broken Trust

Have you been trying to forgive your husband's betrayal, saying the words, praying the prayers and yet the wound keeps reopening and the anger keeps coming back no matter how hard you try? Do you feel stuck in your healing and cannot figure out why?  It feels like you are doing everything right but it still seems you cannot move forward? Are you months or even over longer into this journey and still asking yourself why you cannot find the healing and the peace you so desperately are longing for?  If forgiveness has felt impossible after your husband's betrayal, this episode is going to give you the answer you have been looking for. And it is probably not what you expect. In this episode I am sharing the 8 hidden layers of loss that most women never name after betrayal in their marriage and why carrying these unnamed losses is the most common reason healing stalls and forgiveness feels out of reach. Using the powerful picture of the heart as a vineyard from Proverbs 4:23 we are going to walk the rows together from the most visible surface damage all the way down to the deepest root of all. You will walk away from this episode with clarity of what you are actually grieving and the ability to begin to do the HEART work with intention. This is Episode 2 of our grief series and it builds directly on Episode 34. If you have not listened to that one yet go back and start there first RESOURCES AND LINKS MENTIONED 📖 Proverbs 4:23 - the picture of the heart as a vineyard and you as its keeper 📖 Renovation of the Heart by Dallas Willard, the heart as the executive center of the self 📖 Ambiguous Loss by Pauline Boss introduced in Episode 34, referenced throughout this series 🎙️ Episode 33. You Can’t Grieve What You Can’t Name: 3 Steps to Begin Grieving the Loss After Marriage Betrayal 🎙️ Episode 34: Why Do I Still Feel This Way? Understanding the Grief Nobody Talks About After Marriage Betrayal and Broken Trust.  Listen to this before today’s episode!  🎙️ Episode 35: What Has the Storm of Betrayal and Broken Trust Left Behind in Your Heart? A Simple Practice to Name the Hidden Losses - the Vineyard Inventory practice pairs perfectly with today's episode 💌 Subscribe to receive a weekly love note from Julia 🔜 Join the Heart Work Healing Circle Waitlist — A private healing community for women doing the hard, holy work of rebuilding after betrayal. Be the first to know when doors open! ❓ Have a question or topic idea? Ask Julia here CONNECT WITH JULIA AND NEXT STEPS Contact → [email protected] Podcast → Heart Work After Betrayal on Apple Podcasts Next Steps: Step 1: Sign up to receive weekly encouragement and practical support and be the first to know what's coming! → Subscribe to receive a weekly love note from me Step 2: Have a question for me or a topic you'd love for me to cover on the podcast? → Ask me a question Step 3: Want more personal support? If you're tired of carrying this alone, together we'll work on rebuilding clarity, learning to trust yourself again, and taking your next step with God, yourself, and your marriage. → Apply for a 1:1 Private Clarity Call with me HEART WORK HEALING CIRCLE ***COMING SOON*** A private healing community for women doing the hard, holy work of rebuilding after betrayal in their marriage. Get your name on the waitlist, you'll be the first to know when the doors open. → Join the Heart Work Healing Circle Waitlist     DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for informational and encouragement purposes only and is not a substitute for professional therapy or counseling. If you are in crisis please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.