#36 Why Is Change So Hard? Understanding Hidden Barriers with Inger Beate Botheim

Send us Fan Mail Why is change so hard, even when we know it could improve our lives? In this episode of The Practice Gap, I sit down with leadership and executive coach Inge-Beate Botheim to explore a fascinating framework called "immunity to change." Developed by Harvard psychologists Robert Kegan and Lisa Lahey, this method helps uncover the hidden commitments and fears that keep us stuck, even when we’re motivated to make a change. We discuss why willpower alone isn’t enough to create lasting transformation and how anxiety often holds us back more than the change itself. Inge-Beate shares a personal story about using the "immunity map" in her own life to overcome hidden fears and find a healthier work-life balance. If you’ve ever struggled with perfectionism, procrastination, or fear of failure, this episode will resonate deeply. Together, we walk through practical steps to identify the internal roadblocks that stop us from achieving what we truly want—whether it’s personal growth, professional goals, or simply finishing long-overdue projects. By the end of the episode, you’ll learn how to use the "immunity map" to shift your mindset and start moving forward. Tune in to learn how to stop spinning your wheels and start making real progress—whether it’s in your personal life or your practice. Resources: Download the "Immunity to Change" map from the episode notes. Check out additional reading on Robert Kegan and Lisa Lahey’s work. Reach out to Inge-Beate or me if you’d like to dive deeper into this process. If you want more information about the onboarding program for new practitioners you can sign up here. Thank you for listening! If you like what you hear, please share it with someone that you think might find value in this episode. If you enjoy this podcast, please take a moment to rate us on Apple Podcasts or where you listen to us. Your feedback helps us improve and reach more listeners. Thank you! Kind regards, Elisabeth Aas-Jakobsen, DC, MSc follow on instagram or visit homepage