37. The Dad Drift: Why Most Men Keep Failing at Home with Larry Hagner of the Dad Edge

Survival mode, self-sacrifice, and avoidance are not strengths. They are the drift. Fatherhood doesn't fall apart all at once, it erodes quietly. You keep showing up, you keep providing, you keep telling yourself this is just a season, and then one day you realize you're exhausted, disconnected, and not totally sure how you got here. In this episode, I sit down with Larry Hagner, host of the Dad Edge Podcast, one of the original and most listened-to dad podcasts in the world. Larry calls this slow erosion the Dad Drift. It's what happens when survival mode becomes normal, when self-sacrifice replaces emotional presence, and when your marriage and parenting start to feel transactional instead of connected. We talk honestly about emotional leadership and why anger is almost never the real issue. We unpack why white-knuckling your way through fatherhood can actually push your family further away, how validating emotions changes everything at home, and why so many marriages quietly slip into roommate mode even when both people care. Larry shares what it looks like to catch yourself in the drift, own it, and lead differently without pretending you've got it all figured out. 👇 In this episode, we explore: Why do so many dads feel burnt out, even when life looks good on paper? What is the Dad Drift, and how does it sneak into marriage and parenting? Why anger is usually a signal, not the real problem How emotional leadership creates safety and connection at home What it actually means to lead your family without white-knuckling it Larry Hagner is the founder of The Dad Edge—an organization dedicated to equipping men with the tools and community they need to thrive as husbands, fathers, and leaders - and the host of the globally recognized Dad Edge Podcast, which has surpassed 40 million downloads. With over 1,000 interviews to date, Larry has welcomed an impressive range of guests including Matthew McConaughey, Jon Bernthal, Kirk Cameron, Mike Rowe, Chris Daughtry, Sean Patrick Flanery, Greg Olsen, Bear Rinehart, Nikki Sixx, and many more Follow Larry on Instagram: @thedadedge   https://www.instagram.com/thedadedge/ Listen to The Dad Edge Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/ge/podcast/the-dad-edge-podcast/id986223478  👉 Get 15% off your first Serenity Kids order with code: DADICATED15 https://myserenitykids.com/ Being Dadicated isn't about having all the answers. It's about showing up. It's about committing to the kind of dad—and man—you want to be, even when it's hard. Especially when it's hard. Joe Carr is a dad to Della, husband to Serenity, co-founder of Serenity Kids baby food, and the voice behind Dadicated Joe. Follow Joe Carr on social media  Instagram: @dadicatedjoe  TikTok: @dadicatedjoe  YouTube @dadicatedjoe