37: What to Do When You Don't Know What You Want

Most of our clients come to us asking: Can you help me figure out what I want? Our position: we can help YOU explore and express what you want – the answer to that question resides in you. Yet, we have a ton of empathy for all the reasons this question is so common:  we have all internalized messages about what we can or can't have because of the other commitments in our lives, have ideas of what is or is not available to us, or have restricted views about 'how' the things we love could be part of our work. Nayla introduces the continuum of Should/Could/Want and Must, (and that Want is the most expansive and creative of these options).  Want comes from a place of desire and energy, the sustenance we call on to keep moving forward in our search for what's right for us. Eric introduces how our internal saboteurs (the internal voices and reasons that block us from articulating and going after what we want) can wreak havoc on our emotions and must be explored and often set aside if we want to move forward. We believe that your life is the primary source of information about what you want; chances are you are already devoting time to the things you want in your spare time and with your discretionary attention.  We offer some tips about how to excavate your own life to find clues that point you towards your true wants.  The search for your true career (and life) desires is a process that requires patience.   And, it is a process that we can bring other people into as we design and pursue the personal research questions that get us closer and closer to expressing what we want. Finally, we believe that our wants are fluid and evolve as we grow, so learning to be open to the process of seeking is the surest way to continue to explore the question: what do you want?   Inside Job is brought to you by Nayla Bahri and Eric Johnson.   To learn more about us and our work, visit www.insidejobthepodcast.com or email us at [email protected].   To learn more about the ideas and resources discussed in this episode, check out our show notes.   Let's connect! Instagram Facebook   We'd love to hear from you.