372. It Is Not Procrastination, It Is Executive Function: Featuring Carrie Bonnett

Why do some students sit and do “nothing” when we give them plenty of time to work, and why does “just get to work” rarely change anything? In this episode of Aspire to Lead, Joshua Stamper talks with executive function coach Carrie Bonnett about task initiation as a teachable brain based skill rather than a character flaw. Drawing on her years as a middle and high school teacher and her current coaching practice with students, families, and schools, Carrie explains how to reframe “procrastination,” “laziness,” and “defiance” as executive function challenges that show up when tasks feel boring, overwhelming, or too big.​ Carrie shares practical strategies from her free Task Initiation Toolkit, including chunking work by task and by time, using timers as “dopamine tools,” and making the invisible visible with clear routines and visual cues so the environment does more of the prompting than the adult. She also offers concrete language shifts educators can use, such as moving from “You are lazy” to “Your brain struggles with getting started,” and shows how small changes in how we talk about brains, motivation, and “stuckness” can transform classroom culture, family dynamics, and student confidence. About Carrie Bonnett Carrie Bonnett is a veteran teacher, lifelong list-maker, and Executive Function coach based in Bend, Oregon. She works with students and families around the country using a practical, no-shame, brain-first approach that empowers students to thrive, helps parents and teachers better support them, and gives adults tools to stay on top of all that life requires. In addition to coaching, Carrie creates digital resources—including her signature course Get the Brain on Board and a series of No-Shame Guides for Parents—and provides brain-based workshops and trainings for parents, teachers, and other professionals. She is also an adjunct instructor at the University of Portland, where she supports early-career teachers. Follow Carrie Bonnett Website: www.carriebonnett.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachcarriebonnett/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/coachcarriebonnett Linkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/carrie-bonnett YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@carriebonnett Free Task Initiation Toolkit for parents and teachers: www.carriebonnett.com/toolkit -- NEW Aspire to Lead Cohort: Join the April 1st Launch Ready to move from teacher to administrator? The Aspire to Lead Cohort is a monthly leadership program designed for educators pursuing administrative roles. Get expert training, peer accountability, interview prep, and a clear roadmap to advance your career. December 1st cohort launching soon. Limited spots available. READY TO JOIN? Apply for the Aspire to Lead Cohort: https://bit.ly/47xWzIu Limited spots available. Next cohort starts 3/1/26 📧 QUESTIONS? 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