374-A Marriage Saving Roadmap for Skeptics or Non-Christians

There are so many people I wish I could help when I meet them at the playground, park, at a party... so here it is.    Marriage can be tough. VERY tough. And there is a dearth of helpful insight nowadays.  My content is focused towards people who follow the teachings of Jesus. But I really want to give you help because, from one perspective, we may not even be able to ask the hard philosophical questions about "is there a God?" or "what is Truth?" if we're bogged down with so much emotional pain in our marriage.   So, I tried my best in this episode to give you a roadmap at a very high level of how to rescue your relationship. Whether you follow the teachings of Jesus or not. (Yes, all my training is based on that, but I want to HELP you... so I invite you to listen in because I am very practical.)   Maybe you want to stay married because of the kids (good for you!) or you really can't afford a divorce, or you want to keep the commitment you made however many years ago, or you have the slightest bit of hope that you could get back to what you had at first or... fill in the blank.   So, how do you do that when your partner has hurt you in so many ways?   Well, in this episode, I talk about what husbands need to feel filled up in marriage, and what wives need to feel filled up in marriage.  And when you or your spouse is missing this, it is painful and "hurt people, hurt people". So your spouse reacts by hurting you too. I also talk about the very first step you must take, otherwise, your marriage won't be able to grow.  I also uproot a cliche and very harmful marital habit. EXTREMELY harmful, if you want to stay married. And most of all I want you to have hope that it can change and that it's worth you putting in the work (yet again) to see to it that your kids have a solid and safe family to grow up in. Love & Blessings, Belah PS - To help you determine the current health of your marriage, take this free assessment at delightyourmarriage.com/health PPS - If you want help in your marriage, click here to schedule a free Clarity Call at delightyourmarriage.com/cc   A recent graduate of a Delight Your Marriage program said: BEFORE:  "No hope of anything beyond glorified roommates. We were lacking in communication, vulnerability, trust, emotional connectedness and of course physical intimacy." [We had a sexless marriage]. AFTER: That she has initiated love-making multiple occasions. We made love 3 days in a row on our anniversary trip and twice in a row on a recent work trip. I feel like I have a system or structure—a way forward—to a better marriage. Whereas before I felt lost, hopeless and stuck.  I have loved the program! ... I cannot believe its been 13 weeks!!! WHAT?!"   Sign up for a Clarity Call to see if this is right for you! delightyourmarriage.com/cc