376: He wants the physical, She wants the emotional

0:00 Teaser Clips & Intro 2:10 A little bit about Bitcoin 2:40 Q1: He wants sex, she wants connection 10:45 Females are defensive until they see love cues 22:25 Suspected key issue 29:15 Could it be a phone addiction? 32:50 Q2: Are people doing romance backwards? 42:15 Can I be happy without a partner? 52:16 Final thoughts Q1: My husband and I have been fighting about the same issues our entire marriage (18 years).  He complains that I don't have sex with him enough or that when we do have sex I'm not into it (which I'm not).  I don't want to have sex with him because I don't feel close to him at all.  He works long hours at a stressful job.  It is not uncommon for us to barely speak on workdays.  He comes home stressed and tired so he spends the evening staring at his phone or watching TV.  I have tried to explain that it is important to me that we talk or at least spend a little bit of time together every day, but he doesn't change.  The only time he shows any interest in me is when he wants to have sex.  I feel like we are stuck in a terrible loop, but I don't know how to get out of it. Q2: Many of the experienced and wise people that I know, say 50 and older AND wise, have realized that they DON'T have to be in a romantic relationship in order to be happy.  In general, have people overestimated the need to be in a romantic relationship?  Should our own individual happiness and self-reliance come FIRST as a required prerequisite in order to be truly ready for a romantic relationship?  Are some people "doing it backwards" by demanding romance from the world, when they could have instead been happy for decades FIRST...when the RIGHT romance then happens to maybe arrive (partially because they themselves are now so attractive to others due to being so happy and self-reliant)?   X: @BeatYourGenes Web: www.beatyourgenes.org Doug Lisle, PhD www.esteemdynamics.com Nathan Gershfeld, DC www.fastingescape.com Intro & outro song: City of Happy Ones • Ferenc Hegedus Licensed for use Copyright Beat Your Genes Podcast