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Avoid holiday overwhelm by saying no to almost everything by Courtney Carver of be more or less dot com. There are so many wonderful things about the holiday season and often along with all of that wonderfulness comes holiday overwhelm and decision fatigue. We are overwhelmed with the choices we have on a regular day, but throw in holiday events, traditions, delicious foods, fancy outfits, invitations, and special requests, and it's easy to understand the exhaustion we experience throughout the end of the year. Saying no is hard, so setting up some rules will help you make decisions with more ease and have the attention to engage in what you say yes to.
Start by making a list of your non-negotiables. That way when things come up, it's an easy no. Make a list of the things you promise to say no to. I will say no to over-the-top meals.
I'm not hungrier because it's Thanksgiving day. I don't pile my plate full of food on any other day, so why would I do that to myself because it's a holiday? I'm also not going to spend the day in the kitchen making sure everything is perfect for the table. Instead, I'll prioritize being with the people I'm spending the day with.
Scale down the holiday meals. You'll save money, waste less food, and more importantly, you'll be able to show up for the people you love and you won't feel like a truck ran over you at the end of the day. I will say no to Black Friday, Cyber Monday, and any forced shopping situation. When I think back to the things I've purchased just because they were on sale, I remember that if the best thing about something is the price, I don't need it.
Say no to shopping for the best deal or buying things now because they are on sale that you might use later. I'm not suggesting you should overspend on items, but be mindful about your motivation to purchase. Don't buy just because someone told you today was the best day to buy. The best day for who?
I will say no to sending holiday cards. I enjoy sending thank you cards and other thinking of you cards during the year, but holiday cards are just a little too much for me. It always turns into a bigger production than I imagined, and then they get lost in a sea of holiday cards. So it's a no.
Look at your holiday traditions and the things you think you are supposed to do. If sending holiday cards is something that adds to your holiday experience, send them. If you're sending them out of obligation, just stop and see what happens. I will say no to new projects and opportunities.
Through the rest of the year, I'll be saying no to new work things. I won't review new books, collaborate on new projects, or add anything else to my work plate. I'm doing enough. There will always be more.
Will I miss out on something amazing? Maybe. Will my work and health suffer if I add more? Most likely.
Say no to extra work stuff over the holidays and save your energy for the other extras. You are doing enough. There will always be more. I will say no to buying new holiday stuff.
I won't buy new ornaments, outfits, festive dishware, or anything else I won't want in my home post-holiday, even though I think I want it in the name of holiday spirit. It's not that I don't think those glossy white plates with a gold foil-stamped reindeer aren't beautiful or finding another sentimental ornament to add to the tree wouldn't be somewhat meaningful. The simple truth is that I have enough. I have enough and I'd rather spend my time being content with what I have instead of being in search of something I'm missing.
New holiday gear is tempting, but take a look at what you have. Is it enough? If it is, be grateful. If there's plenty, but you still want more, just know that it will never be enough.
And it's a no to all of these things, too. Perfection, comparison, guilt, regret, drama. And make a list of your yeses, too. I'll say yes to prioritizing sleep and nutrition.
Years ago, I celebrated the holidays by spending money I didn't have, by eating and drinking everything, staying up too late, and by overcommitting and overextending. All the overs, all the more, all the burnout. I always got sick and I always felt badly about how I treated myself, especially in January when I had extra debt, weight, and fatigue to deal with. Now things are different.
I do the holidays differently, like I do my life differently, with more love and intention. I don't want to survive the holiday season or get through it. I want to enjoy and embrace it. Instead of abandoning the things I know are good for me in the name of enjoying the holiday season, I'll double down and dig in deeper.
I'll sleep 7-8 hours a night, practice my morning routine daily, add an extra meditation session each day, and spend more time nourishing my body, heart, and soul. Build in extra time to take care of you, even if that means leaving the party early. Holiday hands. I look forward to this program every year.
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I don't apologize for that. Long walks, hot baths, and books give me the alone time I need so I can give everyone else what they need. If you need alone time, and I think we all do, take it unapologetically. Delight.
What if all of our decisions were based in love and delight? I'll say yes to all of this because it's steeped in delight. I find delight in coziness and candlelight, sipping hot tea and watching the snowfall. Finding Christmas PJs for my daughter's puppy.
Cuddling with my husband and watching The Holiday. Baking cookies for the people in our homeless community. I know they need more, but they deserve delight too. Handing a small bag or tin of homemade cookies to someone with nothing is everything.
Enjoying the city holiday lights at 5:30 a.m. when everyone is sleeping instead of fighting the evening crowds. 31 Days of Gifts you so deserve. I'm bringing this advent calendar for your inbox back again this year.
Watch for an invitation for the delightful experience next week. I will be saying yes to delight this year. Make a list of what delights you. That's your yes list.
Leaving the dishes in the sink. It's been our wintertime tradition to eat a big breakfast, head out to the slopes early to ski, and leave the dishes unwashed in the sink. Sometimes I'll wash a few of them or feel bad for leaving them, but this year, I'm leaving the dirty dishes behind guilt-free. The mountains are calling and the dishes can wait.
What do you want to do instead of the dishes? That's your yes list too. Avoid holiday overwhelm by saying no to almost everything. If you honor every request with a yes, you will compromise your health, family, peace of mind, and the joy of living your life.
If you don't say no, there'll be nothing left of you to say yes to. You will find more time, freedom, and energy when you start saying no. At first, saying no might feel like you are missing out and hurting people's feelings, but after a while, you begin to see that by protecting your time and energy, you are able to better engage in and experience your yeses. Say yes to love, yes to delight, and no to almost everything else.
The holidays will still be as magical and meaningful if you scale back, say no, and do a little less. You may even discover that because you decided to do things differently this year, the holidays are better than before. You just listened to the post titled, Avoid Holiday Overwhelm by Saying No to Almost Everything by Courtney Carver of bemoreless.com. And I'll be right back with my commentary.
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By nature, I'm a pretty calm, non-planning, and more go-with-the-flow type person. Pretty even-tempered for the most part, relaxed, some would say zen. So during the holidays, it's rare I'll overdo it and overplan and say yes to a bunch of things. I tend to keep things about the same as usual and I'll try to get ahead on