39: 🚩 Avoidant OR Just Not Into You? How do you know if an Avoidant likes You?

from The Anxious To Secure PODCAST · host Jula - The Anxious To Secure Coach

🚩 Avoidant OR Just Not Into You? How to Know If an Avoidant Likes You | Anxious Attachment Relationship Advice Is your partner emotionally distant... or just not that into you? 😳 If you're anxiously attached, this question can spiral you FAST. 💭 “Are they avoidant and scared of intimacy—or are they just not interested?” In this episode, I'm breaking down the 4 CLEAR SIGNS so you can finally stop second-guessing: ✨ How avoidants show love—even if it's NOT in your love language ✨ What happens when you stop chasing (spoiler: this is BIG) ✨ How they respond to your needs vs. ignore them completely ✨ Whether they show growth over time—or stay stuck 🎯 By the end, you'll know if your partner is avoidant attached or just emotionally unavailable. 💡 Perfect for anyone with relationship anxiety, anxious attachment, or feeling confused by hot & cold behavior in love. ▶️ LISTEN if you’ve ever thought: “They say they need space… but do they even want me?” “I stopped overgiving, and now they’ve vanished.” “They used to try—now it feels like I’m the only one showing up.” 🖤 BONUS: I share what changed everything in my relationship with my avoidant partner—and the mindset that helped me go from spiraling to SECURE. 👇 Ready to stop the spiral and get clarity? 🔗 RESOURCES MENTIONED 🎧 Text Anxiety Mini Course (to STOP OBSESSING over text in 21 days or less): https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety 🧠 Stop Overthinking Your Relationship (4-Step Course): https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse ⭑ Attachment Library: 25 plus resources https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach ⭑ 3-Min Attachment Style Quiz https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz ✨ 1:1 SUPPORT ✨ 🖤 Ready to become more SECURE? https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/coaching 📖 CHAPTERS: 00:00 Understanding Avoidant Attachment Styles 00:47 My promise for you... 01:23 Avoidant Attachment doesn't mean they don't care about YOU 02:31 7 Signs to tell if they are Avoidant Attached or just not into you 02:47 01 Love Language: Do They Show Care At All? 04:40 02 What Happens When You Stop Chasing? 07:38 03 How Do They Respond to Your Needs? 11:50 How to Stop Overthinking your Relationship with Your Avoidant Partner in 4 Steps 14:01 04 Do They Make Progress Over Time? 16:25 05 What Happens When YOU Become Secure? 17:49 06 How Do They Show Effort? 19:19 07 How Do They Handle Future Conversations? 21:33 Avoidant or Not Interested - or the SAME? Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action. DISCLAIMER: I’m not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It’s not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

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🚩 Avoidant OR Just Not Into You? How to Know If an Avoidant Likes You | Anxious Attachment Relationship Advice Is your partner emotionally distant... or just not that into you? 😳If you're anxiously attached, this question can spiral you FAST. 💭 “Are they avoidant and scared of intimacy—or are they just not interested?” In this episode, I'm breaking down the 4 CLEAR SIGNS so you can finally stop second-guessing: ✨ How avoidants show love—even if it's NOT in your love language✨ What happens when you stop chasing (spoiler: this is BIG)✨ How they respond to your needs vs. ignore them completely✨ Whether they show growth over time—or stay stuck 🎯 By the end, you'll know if your partner is avoidant attached or just emotionally unavailable. 💡 Perfect for anyone with relationship anxiety, anxious attachment, or feeling confused by hot & cold behavior in love. ▶️ LISTEN if you’ve ever thought: “They say they need space… but do they even want me?” “I stopped overgiving, and now they’ve vanished.” “They used to try—now it feels like I’m the only one showing up.” 🖤 BONUS: I share what changed everything in my relationship with my avoidant partner—and the mindset that helped me go from spiraling to SECURE. 👇 Ready to stop the spiral and get clarity? 🔗 RESOURCES MENTIONED🎧 Text Anxiety Mini Course (to STOP OBSESSING over text in 21 days or less): https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety 🧠 Stop Overthinking Your Relationship (4-Step Course): https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse ⭑ Attachment Library: 25 plus resources https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach ⭑ 3-Min Attachment Style Quiz https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz ✨ 1:1 SUPPORT ✨ 🖤 Ready to become more SECURE? https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/coaching 📖 CHAPTERS: 00:00 Understanding Avoidant Attachment Styles00:47 My promise for you...01:23 Avoidant Attachment doesn't mean they don't care about YOU02:31 7 Signs to tell if they are Avoidant Attached or just not into you02:47 01 Love Language: Do They Show Care At All?04:40 02 What Happens When You Stop Chasing?07:38 03 How Do They Respond to Your Needs?11:50 How to Stop Overthinking your Relationship with Your Avoidant Partner in 4 Steps14:01 04 Do They Make Progress Over Time?16:25 05 What Happens When YOU Become Secure?17:49 06 How Do They Show Effort?19:19 07 How Do They Handle Future Conversations?21:33 Avoidant or Not Interested - or the SAME? Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action. DISCLAIMER: I’m not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It’s not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.