39. Breaking Free from People Pleasing: Empower Yourself with Cari Kenzie

Hey there, beautiful souls! Today on the podcast, we're diving deep into a topic that many of us have struggled with: people pleasing. It's something we've all dabbled in, whether it's saying yes when we mean no, or holding back our true feelings to keep the peace. But here's the twist—what if I told you that stepping into our truth could be the most liberating choice we make? I had a profound realization about the toll people pleasing was taking on me. It wasn't just about putting others first; it was about neglecting my own needs to the point of physical and emotional exhaustion. Inspired by thinkers like Gabor Maté, I've learned how deeply our well-being is tied to honoring our boundaries and expressing our true selves. Imagine this: by saying no, we might not just be setting a boundary, but also paving the way for others to grow. In one memorable conversation with my daughter, I realized that not confronting a friend was actually enabling her hurtful behavior. It's a powerful lesson in how our actions, or inactions, shape our relationships. This episode is a call to all the gorgeous beings out there to start honoring themselves. It's about transforming our need to please into a strength that empowers not just us but those around us too. Join me in shedding the weight of others' expectations and embracing the freedom of living authentically. Let's explore how setting boundaries is not only an act of self-care but a profound way to nurture our relationships. So, are you ready to choose you? Dive in with me, and let's embrace the power of self-affirmation together. Remember, every step towards self-respect is a step towards collective healing. LINKS: JOIN THE NEWSLETTER NOW: CARI'S MASTERCLASS STARTS SOON! https://carikenzie.ck.page/subscribe   Website: https://carikenzie.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/carikenzieglobal Instagram: (@carikenzie) https://www.instagram.com/carikenzie LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carikenzie   FREE TRAINING! 5 Days To Clarity FREE Mini-Course -  CLICK HERE: https://lp.constantcontactpages.com/su/n8R8aMD/5daystoclarity Episode Minute By Minute Breakdown:  0:02 - Cari kicks off the episode, setting the stage for a deep dive into people pleasing. 0:32 - The People Pleasing Trap: Discusses the cultural norms and personal experiences that lead us to prioritize others over ourselves. 1:45 - Personal Revelation: The transformative moment of realization about the toll of people pleasing. 2:58 - Insights from Gabor Maté: Cari reflects on how people pleasing links to physical and emotional health, influenced by the work of Gabor Maté. 4:20 - Real-Life Example: Recounts a conversation with her daughter about standing up to a difficult friend, illustrating the consequences of people pleasing. 6:03 - The Power of Saying No: Explores the positive ripple effects of establishing boundaries. 7:45 - Empowering Ourselves and Others: Discusses how setting boundaries is beneficial not just for personal growth but for communal respect and understanding.