#39. From Chaos & Frustration to Boundaries & Validation

“I’ve been reflecting on your lecture which I appreciated so much. Thank you. Especially the part about how families /society have changed. It was a relief for me as a young teacher to hear that what happens now is not all about me being a “bad “ teacher. So, I wanted to share with  you this story of a family. There's a mother  in my studio who's  doing such a fantastic job with her two children. She drives them to lessons, does her best to practice with them while she’s also working full time as a lawyer. I don’t know how she manages... The truth is that they rarely practice, being either too tired or the kids don’t want to do it. The mother thinks that everything is up to what the child feels like doing, so they rarely listen to her and only to their immediate feelings. It’s difficult for her to set boundaries and say ‘NO’. It’s always chaos when they enter and lots of frustration Also, the father is not really  involved. Today I got a message saying that the young child doesn't want to come to group lessons ( he's nearly 5 and has only started recently). I wanted to ask you what you think. I think the youngest feels the mother’s stress and wants unconsciously to protect her through not wanting to play, seeing the stress it brings her.  I also think he sees that his father is not involved.How can I say this to a mother who desperately wants to give her children the gift of playing an instrument? I don’t want to lose this family but I think the only way is to get the father on track. What do you think? I’d be deeply grateful for any idea or though. Thank you again for being a continuous inspiration.” This has been the question asked by a teacher. It could have been asked by any teacher of any subject, about any parent. This is a question often asked . In my reply I touched a few highlights. Hope you find it beneficial. For Donation click the PayPal link http://bit.ly/PayPal-Souloist . Thank you. Find us on: Face Book , Instagram , YouTube , Linkedin Join my mailing list & visit my site: www.zohararotem.com * Intro & outro  music is  " Prelude and Berceuse", Shinichi Suzuki's favourite composition,  performed  by Shinichi Suzuki, Nagoya, 1970.