# 39 - How Do I Know If Someone Is Being Authentic?

Send us Fan MailIn this episode of Quietly Autistic at Last, Dr. Allison Sucamele explores one of the most emotionally complex questions many late-diagnosed AuDHD women ask: How do I know if someone is being authentic?Together, we unpack the psychology of masking, social performance, intuition, pattern recognition, and relational trust. This episode explores why many autistic and AuDHD women become highly perceptive of incongruence in others, why inauthenticity can feel physically uncomfortable, and how years of masking can complicate the ability to trust both other people and yourself.Drawing from psychological research on autistic camouflaging, masking, burnout, and authenticity, this episode examines the difference between charisma and congruence, performance and genuine connection, while offering insight into what authentic relationships may actually feel like over time.If you’ve ever questioned your instincts, overanalyzed social interactions, or wondered why certain people feel emotionally “off” despite appearing kind on the surface, this conversation is for you.Disclaimer: This podcast is intended for educational and reflective purposes only and is not a substitute for therapy, medical advice, diagnosis, or individualized mental health care. Autism and AuDHD experiences are diverse and deeply personal.If you are struggling emotionally or experiencing a mental health crisis, call or text 988 to reach the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline in the United States, available 24/7, or visit 988lifeline.org for support.