39: Putting ‘Junk’ in Your Heart Will Make You Sick

39: Putting ‘Junk’ in Your Heart Will Make You Sick A candid conversation with Dr. Henry Cloud   Being vulnerable makes me uncomfortable, especially considering how I "used to be" before cancer. Before cancer, it was crucial to me to be liked. So, "to make" people like me, I didn't always share my opinions or let people get to know the "real me." When I received the cancer diagnosis, everything changed. Suddenly, I had to save my energy for healing, and I stopped caring if people liked me. I then started to look at some of my relationships. Some of my friendships needed better boundaries, and I needed to manage my expectations about the friendship. All of a sudden, I FELT FREE. I felt lighter and truly began to enjoy the people in my life. I first heard Dr. Cloud, author of Boundaries, on the radio twenty-five years ago. So, you can imagine how delighted I was when Dr. Cloud agreed to come on my podcast to discuss how our relationships can impact our health. My specific question to him was this, "can a lack of boundaries or being co-dependent contribute to cancer risk?" You've got to hear his surprising answer!   Dr. Henry Cloud is an acclaimed leadership expert, clinical psychologist, and New York Times bestselling author. His 45 books, including the iconic Boundaries, have sold nearly 20 million copies worldwide. In addition, he has an extensive executive coaching background and experience as a leadership consultant, devoting most of his time to working with CEOs, leadership teams, and executives to improve performance, leadership skills, and culture.   Boundaries.Me is your best option for mental health coaching by providing you with videos and thinking tools created by New York Times best-selling author and clinical psychologist Dr. Henry Cloud. You will learn how to apply the research-backed techniques that have helped thousands heal and thrive by following a personalized learning path, connecting with Dr. Cloud daily and joining a private support community.   Click here to start your FREE trial of Boundaries.Me   This episode is sponsored in part by ButcherBox. The Benefits of ButcherBox ButcherBox takes the guesswork out of finding high-quality meat and seafood you can trust 100% grass-fed beef, free-range organic chicken, pork raised crate-free, and wild-caught seafood Humanely raised; no antibiotics or added hormones Ultimate Convenience Get just what you want delivered right to your doorstep FREE SHIPPING for the continental U.S. and no surprise fees    🐓Click this link, https://www.butcherbox.com/enos, and then use the code ENOS to get FREE CHICKEN BONE BROTH FOR A YEAR! Along with $20 off of your first box — woot-woot! 🐓   Connect with Deborah Deborah on Instagram Deborah on Facebook Deborah on Twitter WhyDidIGetCancer.com This podcast is for informational purposes only and none of the information should be construed as medical advice. Listeners should seek guidance from their own medical team before making any medical or lifestyle changes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices