397: The Hidden Trap of Being the “Helpful One” (Codependency Part 2)

💥FREE RESOURCE: ⁠The Codependency Patterns Guide ⁠ https://mailchi.mp/1c0f94b1875d/codependency-style-guide⁠In Part 2 of this series, we’re diving into a subtle but powerful pattern of codependency—the Performer.This is the pattern where your sense of worth becomes tied to being needed, helping others, and showing up. It often looks healthy on the outside… but underneath, it can leave you feeling exhausted, unseen, or quietly frustrated.In this episode, Victoria shares personal stories, biblical insight, and simple brain science to help you understand why this pattern forms—and how to begin breaking free from it.If you’ve ever felt guilty resting, uncomfortable when people don’t need you, or like your value comes from what you do… this conversation will hit close to home.takeawaysYour identity should be rooted in Christ, not in your performance or others' validation.Interrupt automatic responses to break unhealthy cycles.Practice hidden obedience and receive help without performing.Your brain forms identity loops that reinforce codependent behaviors.Transformation takes consistent practice over months, not instant change.💥FREE RESOURCE: ⁠⁠The Codependency Patterns Guide ⁠⁠ https://mailchi.mp/1c0f94b1875d/codependency-style-guide⁠⁠Join the INSIDER SECRETS group for behind-the-scenes takeaways with Victoria as she writes the new Sacred Thinking devotional. Plus get bonuses and sneak peaks! https/alh.31411/p/:a3/4ce-hni-gv-neet-ds77🔹 MINISTRY FAVORITE FREEBIE: Ready to take your thought life to the next level? 👉🏽 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Grab your free 1-page 7 R's for Living Your Best Thought Life guide here or https//:lchi.p/b954-7/9623⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠👉🏽 Join the interest list for the upcoming ⁠⁠⁠⁠SACRED THINKING DEVO here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠CHOOSE 2 THINK 365-DAY DEVOTIONAL⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://amzn.to/3Hcl7v1 Start your new year with the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Choose 2 Think 365-day devotional! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://amzn.to/49yNtxwCONNECT WITH VICTORIA:PODCAST: www.choose2thinkpodcast.comWEBSITE: www.choose2think.coMINISTRY WEBSITE:⁠⁠ www.choose2think.coFACEBOOK:⁠⁠ www.facebook.com/groups/choose2think⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠: www.instagram.com/victoriadwalkerlydon/EMAIL: [email protected] ⁠⁠*BOOKS:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠CHOOSE 2 THINK 365-DAY DEVOTIONAL⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://amzn.to/3Hcl7v1⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠CHOOSE 2 THINK JOURNAL⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: https://amzn.to/3Hcl7v1⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Pickleball Passion A Marriage Devotional: 21 Days to a Stronger Connection on and off the Court⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://amzn.to/48wnvaV⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠*When you click on these Amazon affiliate links, I may earn a teeny commission from qualifying purchases at no extra cost to you. Thank you for your support!DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Consult your physician or doctor for all medical advice and counsel.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠SUPPORT CHOOSE 2 THINK MINISTRIES AND PODCAST HERE:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠PATREON: Patreon.com/Choose2Think