Shiny happy path girl holding hands This is wonderful look at how bright and shiny and happy look at that we just fake it till you make it Make it we got a show path girl. We have a magical show three ninety nine of course That is one before the magical number of four hundred episodes of perverted podcast and of course there will be shenanigans in that show Yeah, lots of stuff, but this show let's not ignore three ninety nine just because it doesn't have the fancy number of 400 Does not mean it is any less in credit. Okay. There's there is one thing that's gonna go down and show 400 That's gonna be pretty incredible that I don't have to go through but I'll be able to witness But this show is the one we're gonna do right now The following show is for mature audiences only listener discretion is advised and because you are responsible for yourself There won't be another fucking warning 34 Hello and welcome to perverted podcast the show where we explore the adventures of the kinky lifestyle sex and the human mind Regarding on Zen Casa where sometimes the only thing that could cure a bad day is a rough beating and a warm cookie in that order I am count boogie and now I'm like, huh?
You deserve a warm cookie. I want the rough beat I had the rough eating so yeah, but doesn't the rough beating make your cookie warm anyway? I'm talking about a physical cookie out. There's no it's not after care without chocolate chip cookies.
Oh, you know you mean real cookie Yeah, it's good too, but you're like I don't want to get beaten have my cookie warm and I'm like, oh, yeah That's right fucking make it all warm and written Rhett it's ret your woman ret to put you and then don't it will go don't this will then go and Take care of that for me cuz we all we all by cares. I just emailed your your your man. Yes He is the latest picture. I miss you That was a shock to you wasn't it?
I was like what is this guy and I'm like and I tried to talk about it too I'm like you don't have to you're already part of the show so uh, so uh A couple other shows that are so he's like oh support You're literally gonna give me five bucks if you give a fuck well He gave a fuck and goddamn it will take it cuz you know storage is expensive and so the yeah all the stuff that we do But what a fun show I had a date yesterday with Kathy. Oh, how'd that go it was well? It was you know, it was in perfect boogie Kathy style It was we had we had cuz obviously you know, they're gonna be no fucking because it's not that kind of date Now that I did not for to give her spanking before and we talked about that that didn't go well But so we had this thing like I talked to her, you know and for those of you on perverted podcast Kathy was co-host for like six seven years Yeah, she's OG OG OG host and and we do love her and her and I are of course still close We've been friends for like 15 years, but we're like hey, you know She was going through some stuff and I'm like, hey, you know what? We just need to mix it up a bit because you know Bath girl sometimes you just need to change your environment you get caught you go in those patterns and you're like you go to work And you go here and you go this and it's this this this this this this and you don't change that pattern in your mind actually starts to just Disintegrate and you're like and and and you get a little more depressed a little more depressed And I'm telling you man.
It's you just need of environment reset and it doesn't need to be far like go to a park Go outs, you know go somewhere. You haven't gone recently and we said let's go to the beach And this is a good idea. It was a great idea path girl Kathy and I drive down the coast go to the beach She's like I have beach chairs and we'll put him in the car and we'll sit on the beach and we'll bring you Kaleles and we'll jam Because I have a ukulele and she has fun as old ukulele and okay with two fingers We can make music sit on the beach reset our brains ready to go. It's March everything is beautiful You know the the weather it's getting warmer which I'm afraid of but it's getting warmer and sunny and great and I wake up yesterday morning And and in the car and I hear I look up at the window and it just starts pouring raining Nowhere and I just start laughing because that's just Kathy and Boogie luck.
It's so I text her and I go hey Hey, it's raining and she's like fuck we suck Totally do So she's all whatever come over let's have breakfast and and you know her sister was taking the day off work So it's so we didn't change at least her environment was different for me because I've been to Kathy's in the few weeks And so we had a lovely breakfast and we still jammed the ukulele which was great You know I got her back into you know She had played before but I kind of reminded you know things and two finger things and we actually made up songs and And had a really nice breakfast and and I brought you know got some bacon and eggs and it was it was that yeah She was like you don't have to bring anything. I'm all you got bacon and I'm she's like no and I'm like bro You can't fucking have breakfast out bacon and then and I said wait talk to your sister and she saw do I need bacon and their sisters like bacon You just hear it in the background and so she's like fine go get bacon and so uh so yeah But we had a real a real nice time and had some good conversations and even though we didn't get to revamp We'll maybe do that next week or something like that and we'll just do something But it's it is just important to get out there and do something what did you do a little less innocently this week? It wasn't this week it was about about a little over a week ago We had a party at Cacken Doc's house up King party and it was I haven't played with Doc It got in at least three four months. It's a while.
Yeah, it's just been bedtime of like the times I've had King parties My body's been not cooperating and other times where it's like I'm always the one that's like well I haven't played with them, but they have played with them longer So let somebody else go first, but I messaged Doc like two three days for the party I'm like I want to be the top of the list. I need to be the top of the list you understand I get a point with the doctor He's like you got a first one got it you got it so He's got a big cabinet in his playroom where he's got stuff and he starts saying to me So, you know usually the first question Doc always asked me is well What do you know mood for tonight and I just looked straight at him and I said I need to cry One of those nights one of one of those nights my vanilla life has been a mess There's just so much going on in the next eight months Trying to get so many things done for my son and getting out of this God for second apartment and getting into a house What's on us and just the stress level on a scale one to ten it's been a thousand so I said to doc I just need to cry and I need to shut off so we picked out my favorite rubber serrated flogger and Slapstick and then he got out one of his single tail whips and then I said okay for my bag Let's get that big two-handed cheese board paddle and my vampire clothes all right and Usually when I play with doc he starts with the smaller stuff and ramps up and During this scene He was gonna start messing around a bit to kind of throw me off guard. So right good Yeah, yeah, so he normally when he has played party in the living room He's got two eyeballs in the ceiling which to the unobserved be like oh you must hang plants there. Yeah, we hang plants there path plant yeah exactly a fern you're So yeah, so there was a bunch of our tribe members and so I just basically I even just strip naked for this one Because I'm just basically like I need him the great thing about him having the eyeballs in the middle of his living room Is he could walk around me and take care of not just a front I was gonna do one of those melts into the cross scenes But I was like no I need the full effect so right and especially playing with fan power gloves because they have a little Tax on the end of the gloves they get caught in my cute little outfit I was like let me just take it off.
I don't have any roots good. That's a good call. I support Girl ready for torture naked after and all of my tribe members have seen you make it. I don't care I mean I'm a mess, but they love me anyway, so we start the scene and he starts very lightly with a slapstick and The serrated flogger and starts working his way up and then he starts breaking out The cheese board which is a very it's a very heavy-handed to him to paddle right starts slapping me at that and it's it's a very hard jolt And especially he wasn't focusing on my back He was focusing more on my front one of my thighs and stuff because it's just very yeah Yeah, it's very sensitive over there And what he then started doing is he laid off the cheese board for a moment and went back to the vampire I've been with the vampire gloves, so he's smacking me and then doing that really sexual thing where he's grabbing me very lightly by the chin And holding me up while he's taking the other glove and like grabbing my boobs and like grabbing my crotch And I'm just like it No, I was like you want to move but you can't because if you move Little Pokey in the Little vampire labia going on there Yeah, yep, yep, yep, yep, yep, so you know simultaneously fucking hop is simultaneously holy shit I get move or else there's gonna be problems so But then interesting thing he did what she's never done before is he grabbed the wooden paddle and started Smacking me with the paddle with one hand and then taking the vampire glove and following behind it So I was getting the foot and this thing at pretty safe time.
Oh wow and my body was just like whoa whoa whoa whoa whoa He's never done this before and like I'm trying to like focus on the music and get keep you know keep pushing the pain out and Like I started to lose it and it's just like okay. Is it lose like I need to call red or is lose it and just Let's just see where this goes. So it's just let's see where this goes And then he backed off and went to the whip and extra stinky on extra stinky already stinky skin. That's the that was the ticket.
Oh fuck out out out out and just Again, can I call in red or am I just gonna take it and like let's just see where this goes and then finally went around to the front and started back on my thighs that wooden paddle and I lost it. I just started crying like hysterical crying right to the point where don't it's was like Concerned right and I'm just like hysterical crying and doc is always the one who whisper to me alright? you got five more hits you got four more hits and Just getting more and more hysterical. I'm a blubbering mess and finally like We got the last hit and I just collapsed in his arms because he took enough the chains and was just Doc has a way of Physically shutting me down.
I love don't us to death Donis is not at that level yet I don't know if he ever could be at that level because you have a different type of relationship and this goes back to the beginning where I only used to do kink inside the bedroom with people I love and Through all my exploration I was finally I hope that your help to get outside the room and now I kind of rely on that kink outside of the bedroom because I know Doc loves me. I know Doc cares about me and it's It's a love that he could shut me down and not hurt me right and I just was a weeping balling mess and just everybody got quiet and it was just they just let me just let me go Yeah, cuz they know as my wow, I'm tearing up even just thinking about it where it's just I needed that release and Therapy only does so much self-care only does so much kink is something that it forces me to shut down you're gonna sit here and shut up and there's nothing to do about it so Yeah, yeah, it really was I really needed a scene like that where it was just Somebody's gonna physically shut me off because you know, it's kind of like hit in the button when you need to restart computer It's like you you have to hit that reset button Yeah, it was a good two days after like before I recovered from that scene I think it's really important for for our new perverted podcast listeners who may be joining us that and We're not gonna get all wooey or whatever, but just from a physiological point of view when you are emotionally Consistently triggered into fight or flight like we don't even know like when animals the crocodile jumps out it tries to bite the impala if the impala You know fight or flight kicks in and it gets away and it runs up the hill But then it it sees that there's no more threat and then is able to shut that off and then go on with it's You know searching for whatever I'll just go to another spot and so it's much more on and off but the the curse of being human is we spin that attack consistently in our brain over and over and over and over and over and And then project what ifs and all of these things and we do it with hundreds of different things in our life so much so that our fight or flight response is constantly engaged and We can't release we can't surrender because when you're in fight or flight if you surrender you're gonna die So there's parts of our body that feel that we're gonna die if we let go if we cry if we get emotional if we allow ourselves to go that and you know obviously kink isn't for everybody but for the people that are into kink and especially the people that are into bottoming and Taking pain then that is a direct path to breaking down that fight or flight To cracking it open because it is a surrender situation where at some point you physically have to surrender and once you surrender then you cut your body sends all of these different chemicals it's just an it's it's called catharsis And it's such a powerful experience and I've seen it before I've created it before in bottoms that needed Situations like you've had you know weeping buddha scenes. There's so many wonderful stories We've talked about on the show of this so it's not some people may get really scared by that Yeah, you know like oh shit you did yeah, and when you see it can be you it's good to be like hey Is this wrong but once you understand what we do and why we're doing it and especially in a situation between you and doc where there Is such an understanding of those limits and where to take you and you know that's not something that happened with you and him playing overnight Yeah, you know This is built to that level but if you can get to that level it it can be really amazing and really cleansing because sometimes People just need to cry you just need to let it out you pick you know when I was thinking about talking about this I couldn't find the word and you picked the perfect word of surrender because in my mind It's like when you see in the movies where there's like a cop that's getting beaten up, you know Give me the information tell me what you know blah blah blah not cop is just taking it and taking it's just like that was me Where it's just basically like yeah taking it. I'm taking it and finally to the point where okay, okay?
Okay, and then it was just that letting go. It was just now in retrospect I had talked to Donnis on the way up there that I was gonna need a hard scene But I think I didn't warn him that enough that scene was gonna go and it's just like even afterwards like the next day check I mean it's like you know I kind of got a little worry about you during the end of that scene and I was like no It's like that is exactly what I needed because it's just somebody Forcing me to sit down and shut up and stop taking care of the rest of the world and take care of myself Yeah, so it really was a powerful scene I'm so glad I got to do it and I got to bring two days to recover and doc was checking on me every step of the way And of course I got my aftercare I got to aftercare cookies so Survive another day after you keep your head out of the crocodiles fucking out I had some amazing Bruises on the front of my thighs because normally the back of my thighs don't bruise But it was funny because not the next day But this happened on Saturday Monday morning I'm getting ready to go to work and I kind of took off my pajamas and I was like holy shit My legs look like zebras where it's like I had a whole train tracks full of bruises and I took some pictures I'm like hey dog You don't really use really easy. Yeah, yeah, so I had those for several days and I kept looking down go Oh Your trophies your it's it's still to I it's one of those things that I understand You know because I've heard it so many times But about the bruises and the celebration of the bruises and that empowerment and you know But I do understand scars I understand scars more than bruises Badges of honor baby badges of honor You know that you've accomplished something that you you know and they are little reminders of something that was hopefully really good When you bang your knee on a table and it bruises that's a trophy of stupidity so it's not it's not yeah It doesn't give you that same feeling. Nope is this well that is I mean that's a fantastic story And I'm really glad you're able to have that.
I mean yeah, that's that's great. That's that's really good. That is really good Okay, we went back to the red it's and we found a very interesting discussion that is kind of kink related and is a little scary at times So this person put up on the am I an asshole platform about reporting their husbands kink to the police So yeah, it first I guess that because it first before I read this when you told me hey This is when I looked up at first I was laughing because you know and horrible whatever But then I read the thing and had a much different reaction to it. So go ahead and yeah So basically I mean this person was so afraid of putting this up They even put it up as an alternate account not their regular read it account So basically this woman was writing to basically say that her husband's been doing really cool strange and creepy things in the bedroom and was making her really uncomfortable and she was kind of fearing for her life and she was wondering if his kink was Really harmful his kink was having her pretend that she was dead and lifeless And it did start until recently and it was she was kind of worried about what he was thinking and why he was into this And then on top of that he was getting very angry and aggressive toward her when she didn't want to do it so she reported him to the police for to get some psychological help and they could talk with him and He basically told her oh because you've you out of me to the police now I'm good.
You're gonna fucking regret it So and obviously now it's let's all kinds of domestic things like she doesn't feel safe and how's the more she wants to leave But it basically boils down to is she the asshole for calling the police because he wants to do stuff with a dead body and As I was kind of like oh, okay. There's a lot of layers here. This is a yes No, and no and then fuck fuck it. He fucking fuck yes Yeah, until I read this when I read the details, you know at first when I heard this, you know It sounds like you know bad communication upfront Yeah, they didn't they didn't talk and and this wasn't you know and then she freaked out and called the cops and it made me laugh I'm like oh fuck that just sounds like you like spanking And and so it's humorous but then when you read these behaviors and all of these things are important to point out because there is a difference between a kink something that you fantasize even if it's dark kink even if it's edgy there's a very big difference between a kink that is manageable and you can find a way with your partner to explore something and explain it to each other and all the Things that we talk about in nauseam on the show and then there's this is dangerous Yeah, this is a person This is a fucking you know because of the aggression and you're not doing this and because I want you to pretend that you're dead And there was no build up and this person is not kinky and you're just not this there is and then the passive threats and then the veiled threats afterwards People kill people all the time every fucking day There are these you see all of these behaviors that this you know you can't hide you know some people are like Oh, it's my kink and it's like hey Yeah, maybe it is and you we find out the reason and we negotiate and stuff like that But then there's the times where you're like no no, bro.
This is this is this is this is scary shit Yeah, this is this is people and then people in the comments section were like hey, you know serial killers do that They practice these role plays on their their partners and then go out and kill other people You know where things like that, you know So these are all real things to think about and when it's not presented in a way That's like hey I have this weird kink about you laying still and being dead or whatever but I love you and we can do other things But when it's like no, I can't get off unless you pretend you're dead and if you don't do it I'm fucking gonna go aggro on you get the fuck out Yeah, I Now the majority of people that come here to prepare to podcast will have some idea of consent Negotiation ways to stop say for his things like that and the majority of people who come here are basically if they wanted to talk to their partner about doing a Quote-unquote strange kink like pretend meeting dead would have discussion good bad What have you and there are ways to quote-unquote pretend playing dead besides laying there I mean I've even somebody made a comment about keeping themselves in a nice bath to get physically cold Yeah, and then laying in the bed so that it feels like you're with a cold buddy, right? Again negotiated and consent to and away to stop the scene But at the same time if you're in a relationship with a vanilla person which I have been and you're starting to introduce kink to them They have the right to say no and that is that and if they start threatening you that if you don't do this I'm going to harm you. Yeah, that's when the kink goes out the window and we call the police Yeah, that's not kink anymore No, no and and and telling you know the whole if you'll do this if you love me You know and like oh, it's a kink. It's not it's not being you know, it's nothing mental There's a lot of people who use kink to address their mental concerns and there are a lot of people who use kink to Get out their sexual aggression if you will and blame it on kink.
Oh, yeah or mask their ill intentions Yes, exactly and you know, but she was into it or they were into it. No. No, no, no, no No, this is where you you you were right to call the police and get the fuck out Well, let's let's talk about some safety issues in these things and in this case Call Because the police can't do anything until there's a credible threat. Yeah, they can maybe go they can file a report At this point when you start seeing all these things before you call the police These are major red flags and you need to seek support and help and think about getting the fuck out of the house at those things Even if you're overreacting fuck it right people literally literally there are hundreds and hundreds of these murders every year So it's this isn't something like whoa, it doesn't happen.
So better safe than better safe than sorry what the police Are going to do once they have information is maybe they can intervene but In this case she didn't have a lot of information and you know text messages that talk about, you know I'm gonna harm you if you do this or you know things that are threatening and whatever So the police really can't do much And in that situation now you are going to escalate it because they may go talk to them and be like, hey, what's going on? Blah, blah, blah and you're still in the house They're not going to arrest him. No, they're not going to take him away I mean, maybe you if you can get an evaluation or a psyche bow something like that Like if he talks to them and says creepy shit But if he's a psychopath sociopath, he's gonna be able to be nice and charming and go Oh, it's just some weird stuff and she's overreacting and then the cops will think he's charming and they'll be like, oh, you're just overreacting It's fine and then the door closes and now you're trapped in a house with someone. Yeah, so There's definitely a way to do these things but no fucking around I mean funny's funny and I will say as the people were going through through the comments and then the person said Oh, this guy worked at a mortuary And he used to have his he used to put his wife in an ice bath to make her body cold And then you know and then fuck her to pretend that she was dead Like kind of like you talked about and I was like, hey, man.
I understand that uh, you know, that may seem creepy So it's giving me a boner I don't think that 30 years I've never thought of fucking them Hey, I what time out here bro It is that's fine. Don't kink shame bro. Okay. All right.
Don't kink shit because it is Okay, okay, okay, okay, okay, okay, okay, okay, but even in laughing and having this kinky my gig It's okay because I understand that that's a weird dark arousal And I of course have yeah that that you're you're talking with your partners going Hey, this is my kink and your your bottoms are like, okay, cool You know what I mean? And it's just they're going along with it because or they're participating in it because they know you like it and they may even like it too Sure, and that's and it's the same thing and it's the given take and I've done lots of roleplays with lots of roleplays with partners that corrupted me That I'm like I never thought of this horrible fucking thing and I'm like, oh, okay, well, they're into it And so but once again, that's uh negotiated you're concerned about each other's feelings There's there's like and if somebody says I'm not really into that then you go, okay That's that's cool. Um if we can't find some middle ground on this or a way to get close to it or whatever Then it's just a no and there's always no is in a real relationship. You you don't get everything you want all the time So um, that's that's okay.
But when you're in a situation where it becomes Aggressive and one-sided and your feelings aren't considered and these dark things Are seeming not like fun Then uh, fuck dude. That's that's yeah, that's major get the fuck out. I don't care I don't care if I leave and everyone's like, oh, you're overreacting. I don't care.
I'm still alive Yeah, still not dead and the 1% chance that they're you know, they're wrong. Yeah, you're gonna be a corpse in the morgue and they're gonna be on top of you anyway So Oh It's you know and it doesn't even have to be something extreme as hey This person likes being with somebody who's pretending they're dead Any any type of kink if your partner is forcing you into it and you don't want to do it and they're not respecting your boundaries That's it case closed me. Yeah. Yeah, it's not worth it It's it's not worth it when people stop considering you because then you're just an object And that's one thing if you're gonna do a place scene and you negotiate.
You're just an object I don't care. I'm gonna use you like because there's people that are into that they're on both sides Oh, yeah, I'm not but when someone legitimately is not treating you like a human being and you're supposedly in a relationship with this person Um, there's there's why why do you need to be in that relationship? And hope that it's gonna work out you're with somebody that doesn't give a shit about you Yeah, why do you need to be there? You don't just get the fuck out and you know deal with changes in your life and and be safe It's it it was I've never had a bigger turn In a topic This is this is this is dark this is dark Well, hopefully that and there's literally 600 comments and other than the funny jokes Most of those comments all agreed this is if I mean who knows this could have been a prank whatever It doesn't matter.
It doesn't matter the comments or what's important on a lot of these things because how do you respond to a situation like that when it is real? And like I said, we have hundreds of these fucking murders that they're just they're rampant Yeah, so that's what you do it. Not even the murders I mean just the sexual assault and the assault and the assault and in charge is basically like you know it boils down to you know We all know safe, San consensual everything's negotiated And especially when you're in a relationship with a vanilla person It could be really tricky walking that line of kink and then like I said before like oh my god No, I can't do that so And once again, why would you get in a relationship with if you're really into kink and you're you like dark things Why would you start a relationship with somebody who's completely not into that? That's once again.
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Okay, send me a picture. Send me a picture. I want to see this and see if it comes in This of course doing this in real time probably wasn't a great idea No, it's because I come through just send me send me whatever the picture is and then yeah, it's it's sending it's it's okay for context Um, I I boogie gave me a paraffin wax bath a while back. I really got around to using it.
Oh, oh wait picture came up. It's your game up. Yep. Yep.
Oh No, wait, who's that that that is that is D? That is my partner. That's your oh my god. Your partner's fucking got a smoking ass Right.
Wow. Jesus right. No wonder you're so fucking thrilled all the time That I know I was supposed to look at the wax. I'm sorry.
I was immediately There's a there's a there's a reason we've heard that picture. Yeah, your chick's go. This looks wow. Look at that.
That looks beautiful Yeah, that looks beautiful and use the purple and oh that just and if I can Go ahead. Go ahead. Well, and uh, we've done candles before but this is the first time either of us I've used the paraffin like pouring and stuff. Yes, it's much more immersive.
Yeah, it was very fun Like basically making a shell on on her body of wax and then peeling that off of her Um, I I won't go into you know super super detailed, but um she very much enjoyed the experience of wax Oh, man. That's the wind that is the wind. Yeah, there is it was a fun time We we I didn't tarp enough and so some of it did splash on the other wall and so we had to clean that up up there But yeah, but otherwise it was still it was a very enjoyable time. That looks beautiful That was a full to describe for the listeners She's laying on her tummy and and she has some really sexy little bikini panties on which if you're going to do wax play I'm sure you would agree.
Don't use your favorite panties Don't wear your favorite any things because you're going to get wax on it and that's going to be difficult to get out Um, but these are a really cute little pair of black panties and a really really really uh nice, but um You know, she specifically got she specifically picked panties that like weren't good for period panties They were like yeah, they could they were probably in the line to get cut off at some points. Oh, like that's great Yeah, so so now you have this cascading Um, so you can imagine someone laying down and then just pouring purple wax From the top of the buttocks all the way down to the ankle and just letting those those drips of purple wax just paint The entirety of her thighs and legs and inner thighs on both legs and then of course I see there's some on the back I don't have a picture of that Um, but uh, but it just looks so pretty because it's just it looks like a human candle has kind of melted And it's just running down the contours of the body. It looks really really really nice picture And yeah, we also we also flipped over into the front too, but it was less aesthetic and more just covering her and wax Yes, but but yeah, so it was it was very much fun. Definitely something we're gonna do again I'm so happy that you got some use out of that That is uh, because it really is it really is a lot of fun And obviously we talked about wax a lot because I used to do a ton of ton of ton of ton of wax And uh, did you put down a little bit of a body oil first?
Yes, so that's why it comes off easier here Yeah, you there was one of the one of the bottles that you you gave me still was still good and okay Um, and so I was able to like loach and her up a bit and then yeah Be able to write off didn't even stain her skin like she was a little red after obviously but like yeah Other than that, um, I I also had some aloe like I brought my whole fire kit And so I just put like some aloe lotion on her after just to make sure nothing nothing got burned But otherwise it was yeah, it was a really good enjoyable time for everybody that's fantastic Um for those uh, I don't want to get into a whole waxy thing But but I kind of do because it's just that's I'm so excited that you uh, you had fun and you and you did such a wonderful job Uh decorating her with that and that's part of the fun of having that large amount of wax And that's when you drip the candles it's more of the drop in the sensation and a little jumpy Um, but when you're labeling it on and I'm sure you can now attest to this It just allows them to just kind of go a little bit farther away. Oh, yeah, did you notice that? Yeah, and it definitely changes the sensation how close you are and like we even played with that where Um, especially when there was more of a shell I could go closer in and she would get the heat But it would be more subdued and more spread out because the the still hot wax was was kind of muffled by the wax I was already there and so we were able to go um thicker with the wax but also Um, get a little bit more of the heat intensity as you like like as she was warmed up to it. Yeah, so yeah It was it was definitely fun playing with distance and and that kind of thing.
That's wonderful. That is wonderful And yes, you learned the massive tarp rule. Yeah, um, you can never never have enough tarps when you do actually you should have at least Five feet five to six feet around your entire area because it's platters It's and you don't notice it and next thing, you know, if it's on your curtains or you know You're not getting it out of that, you know, you can you can get it off a wall But there's remember there's some dies in the wax and I can stay it. Yeah wax gets everywhere man.
Oh, it does That's so wonderful So yeah That's exciting. That's a great picture. I'm excited. I knew you were gonna send me something and I was like, oh, well Let's see if it keeps if it doesn't crash my hotspot.
I'm in storage, but uh, that's uh, that's quite a treat I'm glad you had a great time with that and uh, yeah, we'll just we'll just uh diverge out of that You know, you don't mind if I uh, don't delete that picture right away. Do you? Uh, I mean to hang on to that, you know, well, just I mean just for reference right? Right?
Right? Right? Yeah, yeah, yeah I should just be able to really see because you know, I'm not gonna be a snob, right? And I don't want to be like, oh, I'm Mr.
Wax expert, but I do I do want to look at your work a little bit and you know See if there's any improvements that I could you know mildly suggest You know, that's that would oh wow. Oh, you can't see some side boob there. Yeah, it's nice. What I mean, uh, good drip very good.
Thank you Canaling we'll call it canaling. That's when it runs down the small of the back and then off like a little canal Now if the thing that's very yeah, very good. Good job and you I'm going to put this away now because we're doing a show. Yeah, we have a very very interesting topic that I uh, I'll explain something When we get into it because it's kind of funny because it changed my entire point of view, uh, about it.
So go ahead and start Um, so yeah, uh before we get into this I just wanted to rant because it was very hard finding an article because so many fucking online article like Newspapers and magazines have gone behind a paywall and I hate it Um, so and it's it's making it harder for me to find articles that we can use on the show So if you are listening to this and you know of some good articles Um that are interesting and that we should talk about on the show and are not behind a paywall Please send them to us either on instagram fedlife or through our email. Uh, that would be incredibly helpful All right So our first article or our our only article of the day is coming from npr.org and it is called a sex educator on the Uh, one question she has asked the most am I normal? Um, and so this article is actually an interview that you can find on the npr.org website. Um So the typical tale is that sex is great at the start of any relationship but as time flies So does the urge for sex?
Uh, Emily nagoski, um sex educator author of the book come as you are which is a really big sex educator book Um suggests that the fastest way to destroy your sex life is to worry about it Your sexuality is not a problem that needs to be solved. We are not broken people Our mainstream perspective on sex and sexuality versus how our mind and body feels is often a contradiction Uh nagoski, uh, you've been found some freedom in talking about what they are dealing with through the book and through making the book Um for them it was in a book but for many it can be just expressing how they're feeling to their partner communication Um the connection between what your brain knows and what your body knows isn't always connected Um and that being sex positive doesn't mean you have to be positive about sex all the time Um it is about having autonomy over your needs and intimacy When we feel safe and connected and have the choice for intimacy it will happen Maybe in ways we weren't looking for but but if we feel stressed about it Our body goes into a fight or flight response and it's much harder to find that special place I agree I agree the first time I read it and then this which I agree mostly obviously mostly I agree But so, uh, I wrote my notes. I spent like half hour I wrote my notes, but I had copied because the ads were so much in the frickin site that you sent me I get you know, it's eaten my hot spot with 20 videos So I just copy and paste the text and then I put it in a text So unfortunately I didn't save one and save the other and then I wrote all my notes for a half hour And thought I saved it and apparently I just saved the article over my notes and couldn't get them back So I'm like oh fuck. I got to write my notes again Yeah, and it was a little time had passed and so I'm like well, I got a show So I start in to start writing my notes again And all of a sudden I started looking at this article maybe because I was grumpy because I just lost all my work Um, but I started looking at this article a little bit differently because I had read it again and saw so So now my point of view is uh, if you're happy about your sex you like then of course you're not broken unless Dot dot dot.
There are things that maybe are like if you're if your sex I think the poster was talking about rambling. I think the poster is mostly talking about a lack of sexual Or maybe a lower libido or maybe that you know not, you know If you're stressed out or going through things with work or you know You're you're having all sorts of different conflicts in your life And you're maybe not as sexual that you're trying to be nicer to yourself and not say I am broken Um, and that nobody's sexuality is broken unless dot dot dot Your sex involves hurting people Then your sex is broken. Um, there is a difference between uh, you know the the mental wellness of who you are And then there's physical disorders that you and I both know about If you want to fuck but you have a rectile dysfunction Your sex is broken So if you have problems with your vagina that don't allow you to have intercourse then that is something That's an issue that you have to deal with so at first I was very like, oh none of us are broken There's nothing broken but there are things that are legitimately wrong sexually sometimes Does that make sense? Yeah, there's there's things that like like I said like we both have ed and we have to navigate sex with that and there are people Um, I'm forgetting the word for it, but people who's with vaginas who like vaginas doesn't Sometimes yeah, it just does it it hurts Um, and then there's like sometimes you can't come and sometimes you can't get like there are things that happen that our bodies Just can't either they can't do ever or they can't do at the time and it's just kind of part of it Um, I know for me.
I definitely um struggled a bit more than a bit sometimes with uh, With having that kind of body body issues because I would have partners who would give me put a lot of shame on me Because of how my body worked it or didn't work right? Um, Like it's it's not I understand that it's not a great answer But like a big part of this is like finding people who you can you can just like who will accept you And again like d is is one of the most amazing people I've ever dated because if they're like, oh, that doesn't work Cool. What about the other billion things that we can do together? Yeah, that don't include putting your your dick in my holes like that That doesn't it doesn't have to include that sex for people looks different Throughout it and like some days like neither of us are really feeling like sex So we'll just like cuddle up and watch what Buffy or watch a movie or whatever Um, you're watching Buffy reruns.
No, we are where I am introducing her to Buffy's because she's seen angel shall sing Buffy It's a thing Uh, that is I gotta say it's pretty romantic bro. That's your you're definitely you've moved up at least it's not friends reruns You're at oh god. No, I think uh that's cool. Neither of us are friends our friends vibe.
Um, it's funny But yeah, so like we we part of it and like you know, we've only been dating a little over a year So like there might come a time where it's like we have to talk about like Chain like finding finding different ways or seeing what it goes but like a big thing with dating D has been Letting go of a lot of that worry that I'm not enough Um, that I think is yes, absolutely And so like part of that is like part of the part of it's gonna come down to if you if you do you trust your partner To communicate their needs once and desires about sex Um, and can they trust you to express your need once and desires about sex if you're somebody with a really high libido And your partner is going through something that means that they can't either medication or like Depression or something is just making it so they're there your your Desire is is mixed match like that needs to be communicated and maybe maybe there are ways that like the the person with a little libido can uh help with the intimacy of the other without necessarily Uh being as involved like we talked about how yeah for looking into the sex, you know, right like you can use toys You can maybe the the person can can run the toy Like run at like a remote control vibrator and so like they're still participating in the sex But their desire to actually be intimate is is being respected Um, and so like there are ways to do that. It's just um, it's about finding people who you can communicate Properly with and and to help get to that point where um where you can both have the sex that you want Uh without like necessarily hurting the other person Yeah, because there's nothing shittier Than condemning your partner's sex because you want them to either like your sex and not their sex Or they're not giving you what you think you need Uh, and so like and and this is fame. I mean this goes on both sides of the spectrum It doesn't matter top-bottom male female doesn't matter There's always that like you need to do this for me or they can't live up to what you're doing And so once again, it doesn't matter where you are whether you're low libido high libido whatever when you are trying to be rate or judge your partner And be rate what they like and are into or their level or their libido Uh because it doesn't match yours Right there. You're you're just you're ending your own relationship at that point because you're just literally creating a bigger war You're creating more stress.
You're surely especially if it's if you have a higher libido You know if you if you want a lot of sex in your partner doesn't want a lot of sex and you're like you never have sex with me You think that pressure is gonna get her fucking wet You really think that that is the road to having her go. Oh, all right. I'm guess i'll just turn on this horny switch and uh and grant you your desires sire Um, it doesn't really work like that. It doesn't work like that at all So it's really important and we always come back to that communication But sometimes it can be like in that moment like we you know we're talking about uh, How do I personally deal with this because of course now i'm gonna be 56 I thought I was 56 and I went to an appointment and they're like no you're 55 And i'm like no i'm 56 and they're all let's do the math together you're 55 and i'm like wow I'm really getting old now.
Um, but because it doesn't help but I did that a couple years ago I made myself a year a year younger My sister who's like almost exactly four years older than me. I was like wait a second Sorry that math doesn't math. Yeah. Yeah, so so as an as an older man, you know, I have of course I have a mental competition with younger men strongbacks good cardio giant wieners You know, does that mean i'm broken?
Well, guess what in some ways a little bit because i'm old and my joints are I don't have the cardio I don't like the word broken in this article. I think that's what I don't think that's really the thing is because I think Acceptance is a much better way to do this because it covers more Right, you know what I mean? It's about accepting yourself where you're at and what your desire is or your lack of desire or the type of sex that you're interested in Or not interested in I think that self-acceptance Is it just works better for me than saying i'm not broken because there are things that are wrong Um that we do have problems both mentally and physically around sex if we were abused Then there's parts of our brain and our programming that is very broken and needs to be healed and unpacked and reprogrammed into something Because sometimes you because of your fight or flight and all that defensiveness or trauma That you that's why you don't want to have sex So it doesn't mean that's the sex you actually want that that could just mean that's the sex You're currently programmed to want because of all this other stuff So if you unpack all this other stuff, you may all and I've I've had this with multiple partners Where they had a lot of negative programming about certain things surely anal No, just an accident or or having or having orgasms with a partner or all of these things because there was so much negative programming Around that and then once that was dismantled and there was a freedom given and there wasn't the expectations anymore All of a sudden lo and behold they discovered new levels of themselves and they were able to involve I think the first step is just to accept that wherever you're at that that is that is where you get to work with yourself And that you shouldn't be shamed for the place that you're at. Does that make sense?
No, yeah, that makes that makes a lot of sense and I think um like I I however long we still have it but on tick tock I have started following this one creator Um who just his whole thing is is kind of shaming shaming women and with like their their x and what their turnoffs are and like there's there's a lot of stuff that it's like The like a guy's gross because of because they're short and you're like, okay, that's not something that somebody can fix That's just who they are And it's like I don't like them because their nose is small. I don't like them because they have big nipples I don't like them because like there's there's stuff that like outside of like magic and major Matrix surgery. We're not going to be able to fix so like if if you're if you're shutting somebody down because Of a particular body part isn't up to what your expectations are to do just A that's limiting you to a grand scope of people that are fantastic and loving and caring and respectful and all the things that you're looking for but like also like All the horny stuff where it's like okay for me. It's like yes ed makes it really hard for me to to do P&P and hold anything But I'm also real good at eating pussy and you got skills I got skills and like I can I know how to figure somebody really well and if you're like I can do that too It's like okay, but I'm doing it from an external perspective So I I've been told I do it really like there's there's just things that like I do really well and I'm very confident at that Because like I learned it's like okay, this doesn't work Am I gonna do to be able to give my partner what what they what they desire and what what we desire to do together?
And that was just something that I had to develop over over a long time and Part of it was luck in finding a partner and partners that are Respectable and like into me into me as a person and so they're they're going to be on board for the anything that I bring to the table but like like that that could be something that you get with a partner you just have to Be willing to have that open mind in that conversation And I think it's I also want to say if you don't like big nipples You know, I'm not gonna judge you you know to go on and rant about it and make videos about it Probably a little bit unless they're good jokes if they're not good jokes and you're just literally hating on people Yeah, you're a douche, but um I appreciate hearing what people are into and what not into even if it's harsh like yeah You know because sometimes then I go oh I don't have to Pursue any farther and that's why we always talk about pre-negotiation I have found many times through many conversations with partners where they're like I only want a guy with nine inches or more And I'm like hmm get out my little uh Hello kitty penis ruler I am I am three whiskers short of nine inches and uh, and it's not gonna stay hard all night without biagra Uh, I'm not going to continue this anymore It may butt hurt me because I'm not this or I'm not that but that's that acceptance is it's okay If that's what they want and that's what they like You know, you're going to be more limited depending on who you want and what you want and and kathey And I used to talk about this all the time that sometimes you have these really high want this person to look perfectly like this Do perfectly like this say they have this perfect You know ideal mate and then they won't lower their standards any below that which you can do you're in here Go ahead. Yeah, but you may miss out on some really cool people Without a little bit of flexibility People are upfront about what they like because then I can say I don't do that You know, it's the same thing not just sexually but even just in their taste when people are like I love to travel and go outdoors I'm like nope Nope, I love camping. Do you know many years? I've lived in a car.
I'm tired of camping I don't want I have been camping every day for the lab I've been sleeping in a cart and for the I have not yes No, I'm not gonna do those things So I think it's important to just have those conversations as quickly as you can about things But at the end of the day, you have to accept yourself You have to be okay with what you are and and it's a real good indication that if somebody is shaming you For what you think and do about your sexuality or your level or frequency then they usually have some sort of issue of their own Yeah, they had they they're the ones really with the issue and it's sad if you can't be together with a person like that But why would you want to be with a person like that? Yeah, why would you want to be with a person that shits on who you are sexually? Why would that be why would that be attractive to anybody for any reason? I don't I mean I know that like Like if you're into that thing sure but that's also that's also going to be more of a consensual Hopefully consensual negotiated humiliation kink or something.
Yeah, yeah Um, it's the joke of it's something somebody's kink is not okay and let's say her into that sort of thing Yeah, I think like I know some people it's like they have like a friend group That they can send like hey, I felt hot in this picture And so they're gonna send that picture to that group of people and and just be like it could be a mood It could just be like hey, I felt good in these pants whatever and like they have friends who would be like fuck You're hot. You're you're a delicious snack whatever whatever frags they want to use with each other Right. I think and I think like finding that sort of group of people like maybe if you don't necessarily have a partner Maybe you have a group of friends who like botanically you can like have some that sort of like friend intimacy with And and and get into that sort of like kind of build each other up because a lot of it like I found I found deep because I was Feeling I was starting to feel more confident in myself. I was starting to feel Uh more able to to like put myself out there so to speak but like I wasn't necessarily looking I was just trying to get myself in a better place and and then D came along and It worked out.
Yeah, that worked. Yeah, you've had a pretty a pretty solid year with a pretty amazing woman And that's pretty cool and uh Very good for X technique. Thank you. Thank you.
She has a nice spot. I agree. She has nice wax She has good wax adherence features Yes, so what she has and that's a good partner to have if you can get it. Yeah very much agree Congratulations And that is the end of show 3.99.
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Oh fuck. Oh fuck. Oh fucking nailed it, man. Good job.
I'm a professional No, we're not Yeah, sorry. Sorry. Okay kids. We'll see you next time if we survive and it will be episode 400 I can be free.
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